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DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOU - by Dieter Luske
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ARTICLE NUMBER - 29 - CHAPTER FOUR
Goal Setting - Questions of Distinctions
DISTINCTION QUESTION 1:
For no particular reason, but simply as an exercise,
imagine you have just found out, that you have only one
week left to be on this planet. You are well and healthy, you
just have to take a trip into another galaxy.
What is important to you now in this time-shortened
reality?
Reconsider the first three questions under this new
reality?
(see the 3 questions again - click goal )
Having answered this question, ask yourself:
what
stops me from doing what I have written down, and why
don't I do it right now?
Experience has shown that a lot of people answer this
question from a basis of guilt, they write down what they
'should have done before'.
Examples of that would be: spending more time with my
children; my partner; my parents; going for a bushwalk; enjoying nature.
So, ask yourself now, why don't I do these things now from time to time?
You live today, you never
know what tomorrow brings.
Please write down now, what
you will do from now on, starting this very day.
What
about that talk you always wanted to have with your father?
What about playing with your children before they grow
up?
How about enjoying your partnership or the wilderness
while you still can?
You know how time seems to fly. Don't use the old
excuse of, not having any time.
Make time—time is relative,
there always is time.
And especially for men—don't kid yourself about working
so hard for your family that you haven't got the time for
them. Using the excuse: "but I did it all for you." This could
be a rude awakening, so work that out now. How?
There is nothing wrong with working hard or achieving
goals for the family. It is when you forget about setting a
time for finalising your goals, that you get in trouble. You
have to know when to stop and when to rest! Otherwise you
go on forever, chasing the dollar, getting a higher living
standard which costs more, needing more money again and
forgetting to live in between. That is the "rat race."
DISTINCTION QUESTION 2:
Instead of one week, imagine that you have one year to
stay on our beautiful planet. Again consider, what would you
do now? Who would you be with? Where would you go?
What would be important enough to actually make happen?
Will you choose some of the same goals you wrote in
answer to the first question, or will you create new and
different goals? There is a similar consideration to the first
distinction question, but you have a wider scope.
This is
easier to plan for as you have more time here to put in some
of the major experiences that you wish to have in your
lifetime.
And if you do, ask yourself "why don't I do it now,
what stops me?"
DISTINCTION QUESTION 3:
Because of an unprecedented breakthrough in biomedical
research, the average human lifespan has been
lengthened to over two hundred years.
With two hundred
more years to look forward to, how do your goals and
priorities change? And who tells you that this is not possible?
The way research is going you can see a two hundred
year lifespan as a reality. Present statistics and research
indicate a lifespan of a hundred and forty years for the
'around forty generation'.
So, don't think you can take the easy way out and retire
at sixty, I don't think you would enjoy a hundred and forty
years watching T.V.
PLAN AHEAD NOW. What would you do now?
Answer
yourself—maybe start your life all over again? It surely would
stop the excuse of being too old. So, what about it, going
back to University, learning a musical instrument, getting into
a new profession, opening up a business?
Maybe now you
have the time to go into politics, research, change the world,
it's up to you. Don't wait for other people to do it, you can
do it, take charge now.
Fine. What stops you? GO AHEAD, MAKE YOUR LIFE!!
Another thing that is very relevant. Do you believe, that in
these fast changing times, you can stay the way you are? I
don't think so. The only permanent thing in this world is
change. You have to move with the times. If you don't
change, you are actually going backwards, as everybody else
is overtaking you. This is happening at this moment, and
change will be even faster in the future.
You just lost your
job? Say, thank you, somebody else made a change for you.
DON'T HANG ON TO SOMETHING WHICH HAS
BECOME OBSOLETE!
Too many people stay in that particular victim position,
don't do that to yourself.
Remember being proactive? Good,
then forget about age limitation, accept that you probably
have to change your profession or occupation a few times
during your lifetime.
Become proactive now. Change before you have to change. Stay with that policy, and remember that it is never too late. If there is no job for you any more, because your
skill has become obsolete, move on, create your own job.
Don't wait till somebody comes to you with a job. The future belongs to people who are flexible and creative!
... to be continued . next >> Goal Setting - Dream your Life
