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... all following articles, are written as workshop manuscript
... questions were asked to stimulate active participation.
DISTINCTION QUESTION 4:
Money and health seem to cause the most drastic restrictions on people's ideas about life. Let's lift those limitations and therefore let the ideas run free.
You are in perfect health and you will stay that way, .... isn't that nice?
Furthermore you have an unlimited supply of money—even nicer!
Now, start dreaming, lean back, relax and dream about a life without financial limitations.
What would you do with all this money? - Just spend it? - Or could it bring a totally new meaning to your life?
Having finished your dream, what did you come up with? If not satisfied, why not dream another one?
What would you do with your life now? Once again, what stops you?
Why don't you do it now, or why don't you create goals to make it happen?
If your new life and goals rely heavily on large amounts of money, that's fine, there is nothing wrong with money. I am sure you will get the money.
If your goals have desire as a driving force, then you will come up with strategies to get the money, either by yourself or you will get the money from somebody who likes your goals. With anything worthwhile, there will be people who would like to be part of it, either with money or with other help, technical, ideas, material, anything.
By now you should have a variety of new goals, outcomes and ideas in front of you, and remind yourself that there are no limits, there is no failure—only success and participation.
Congratulations—you have succeeded in finding new goals and more will follow.
This first part, the three questions, plus the four distinctions belong to the hard core.
The next question will go more into the easy and fun part of your goals.
Like the last question, this part will be suited for dreaming.
Talking about your special day, let's take it one step further.
A special day is something to look forward to. Is your future something to look forward to?
Do you look forward to the future? Or would you rather avoid the future?
As it can be considered an advantage to have something to look forward to, we will now look with our goals to the future. This will also give you more ideas about your goals.
You need a future. Whether you want to lose weight, stop smoking, invest wisely or get along with others, you need to create a goal. You make a decision or commitment now and continue with goals and strategy into the future.
Having a pleasant future, something to gain, motivates you to move toward that future or create goals to reach that future.
By gain, I am talking about anything you would like for your future—love, peace, health, fitness, money, purpose—anything.
Some people will find it easier to work from an opposite direction, instead of moving towards gain, you may prefer to move away from pain.
Pain in this sense stands for things you definitely don't want for yourself in the future. I guess we all have something about ourselves we would like to improve, and moving away from pain is one way to do it.
Obviously it always has to be in conjunction with doing something you like.
By example, if you are overweight now. If you look into the future, (while continuing doing what you always do), it would mean, that you would be even more fat in the future.
This is painful. By moving away from that pain, you would have to decide to change something about yourself now. Having done that, you take one more step and choose something to look forward to, a gain. This gain could be the figure plus the fitness you always wanted.
The flip side of gain therefore is pain. Pain can motivate you to move away from things and to move into a more compelling future. This would motivate you to eat less and start your exercise program.
To make that work, the pain or the gain must be strong enough to motivate you over a prolonged time. Using the pain and gain technique has the advantage of ... the pain pushing you and the gain pulling you.
If that doesn't get you going, nothing will.
I will give you an example of a painful future, although it will be only a short time into the future.
Close your eyes, and imagine you are sitting at home right next to your radio speaker, Hi-Fi or whatever music system you have. Not only are you sitting right next to it, but you then put you ear close to the speaker. With your radio switched off you now set the volume control to its highest setting. (You probably never did that before, as it would be deafening).
Now comes the question, will you switch that radio on, remembering that your ear is right next to the speaker? (My guess is that you would not - the pain would b etoo much ( Don't do it )
If you can make something so strongly painful or gainful, that it will create enough motivation to move mountains, you will be able to move those mountains, so to speak.
To return to those of you with a weight problem. Seeing yourself as a total flop, not able to get up the stairs will make you stop overeating for the rest of your life. To generate a long term compelling future for yourself, you must first construct a full visual mental picture of yourself being in the future.
The 'you' that you will create, is the 'you' from your future, and is completely dependent upon what kind of action you are taking in the present for that future wellbeing. The only person who can tell you what you have to do now, at this very minute is your future self.
Your future self will know exactly how you will be in five years time if you continue to do what you have always done.
How will it know? Yes, your subconscious mind has all the information from the way you lead your life now. If nothing is changed, it can predict the future as dearly as anything.
This next exercise will bring you in touch with your subconscious mind, and you will clearly see how you will be in five years time if you continue to do what you have always done. That is, whether you are failing to save money; disregarding your relationships or health; overeating, drinking; smoking; blaming; putting yourself down; not doing enough exercise; staying in a victim position—it is in the future you that will most pay for it!
Sit comfortably, allow yourself to relax and as you take a deep breath, some parts of you will start to feel relaxed already and will continue to do so. Take another deep breath and hold it, and as you breathe out, allow yourself to relax completely and take yourself five years into the future.
Five years from now, see yourself, look into the mirror, how do you look? See your face, stand back a bit and allow yourself to see yourself from top to toe. What do you see?
Take a deep breath—whatever you see, you have the power to change in the present.
When you can see yourself
clearly, imagine moving into yourself and physically becoming
that future you. Feel how it feels to be there. Feel what it is
like to be in your future body. Take a deep breath again and
explore the sensations that go along with being five years
older. Now step out again, see your future self again, and now
ask the future you what it wants from you now.
Listen well to the answer. If you do not listen and respond to your future self, who will? Whatever your future self wants from you, write it down now:
Before you can continue to create your future, you must have a close look at your present situation. Before you go somewhere, you should at least know where you are coming from. Not only that, looking at what you have now, in detail, will actually help you to determine: what you want more of and what you don't want at all.
You are going to assess yourself both in a positive and negative way. This will give you a base whereby you either move away from what you don't like or move towards what your do like.
... to be continued . next >> Goal Setting - MY PRESENT SITUATION
Excerpt from a workshop & book - published 1993 - titled; "Do you believe in You"
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