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Article extracted from a workshop & book called:

DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOU - by Dieter Luske

... all following articles, are written as workshop manuscript

... questions were asked to stimulate active participation.

 

 

ARTICLE NUMBER - 7 - CHAPTER TWO

Mistakes are for learning

 

 

Mistakes - Counselling

 

A mistake is only a mistake if you don't learn from it....

WITHOUT MISTAKES THERE CAN BE NO LEARNING.

 

Actually, without mistakes we would be still living in caves. There would be no invention, as only by making mistakes will we learn how to correct something. So, it's O.K. to make mistakes, go ahead, make a mistake, learn and make a correction.

 

MAKE CORRECTIONS RATHER THAN REPEAT MISTAKES.

1. A mistake ONCE is just that, a learning mistake, learn and correct.
   
   
2. A mistake TWICE is a reminder for you to wake up! It is a pat on your shoulder, something has happened, and you should take notice.
   There is something to fix up, something to correct.
   
   So, please, take note, start correcting, don't make the same mistake again.
   See it as a learning mistake, correct it and go on with your life.
   
   
3. A mistake made THREE TIMES (wow, you better wake up)
   is called a default response. (stuck in a deep groove)
   
   You are not learning anything, you are not listening, you refuse to feel the pats on your shoulder and you are waiting for the "Mack truck" to hit you.

 

 

A default response means reacting over and over to the same fact with a mistake response.

A typical victim response. There seems to be no choice. The only way to get out of it is to wake up to yourself.

 

You actually have to force yourself to react with a correction, and EMERGE OUT OF EMERGENCY.

Your belief system is telling you that you can't do it any other way. Luckily, by now you know what "can't" means, and you know who is in charge of your belief system.

 

So, ask yourself, "DO I WANT TO BE A VICTIM?" NO-NO!!!!

 

EXAMPLE: If you get up in the morning and the only way to get going is to have a cup of coffee, than you have a default response, because you seem to have no choice. You have to apply Rule Number 2, and do something else.

 

In this case simply refuse to have that cup of coffee. As you will notice, that will create a real emergency for you, "help, I neeeeed my coffee."

 

An emergency will stimulate your creative juices. In other words, you force your creativity to come out, think of what else to do and emerge out of your emergency!

You will have to do something else, like having orange juice, or perhaps go for a run, a swim, do yoga, have her tea, a quickie, a new type of breakfast, do affirmations, do anything else BUT drink that coffee.

You need to interrupt that pattern to get back in control.

Sooner or later you will have created a second choice. But to be really flexible in life and have true choices of what and how you like to be in life, you need to know at least
three different ways of responding.

Finally be aware that it was your belief system that gave you the illusion that you could not be without your cup of coffee. So change your belief system to something you would rather believe: You can be without your coffee.

Before we go deeper into belief systems let's have a look into a few things we could change to be more flexible and of course to be proactive.

 

Let's call it the proactive-change list, and please add plenty of your own things to change.

Which brings us to the next subject - proactive-change list

 

 

Article provided by the Editor - Dieter L.

Excerpt from a workshop & book - published 1993 - titled; "Do you believe in You"

www.usenature.com - Dieter Luske ©

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