Article extracted from a workshop & book called:
DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOU - by Dieter Luske
... all following articles, are written as workshop manuscript
... questions were asked to stimulate active participation.
ARTICLE 1 - AN INTRODUCTION -
DO YOU LIKE TO HAVE FUN?
DO YOU LIKE TO LEARN SOMETHING?
DO YOU LIKE TO COMBINE LEARNING AND FUN?
DO YOU LIKE A CHALLENGE?
If your answer is yes to all of the above question, please read on, this article may be for you!
Can learning be a challenge?
Learning could be one of the biggest challenges, because you are challenging what you know already! All too often we have the tendency to defend what we know already.
Before you can learn anything, you have to change a few of your concepts, remove a few stumbling blocks, find out what stops you from learning and from getting out of life what you really want!
One of the main learning stumbling blocks is to "know something already" and to insist that whatever you know is right. - Whenever you have to prove that you are right, you may unknowingly stop yourself from learning something new.
It is not enough to know something! True knowledge comes from understanding and acting out what you know!
I know that you know that exercise is good for you, but true understanding is actually doing regular exercise. - Do you exercise regularly?
If you do what you always do, you get what you always get!
Do you like to get what you always get?
If you get something good, stay with it, you obviously have learned how to get it.
Keep doing what you are doing, it is working!
If you don't like what you are getting, that's where you need to change what you are doing. You have to learn to stop doing what you always do, so that you won't keep getting what you don't like or you don't want.
That means YOU have to CHANGE.
To change does not mean there is something wrong with what you are doing now,
it simply means that there is much more to come.
Could it be a good idea to change before you have to change?
This is called being proactive.
What is the opposite of proactive? Yes, it is reactive!
What is reactive? Being reactive is when you react to something that has already happened.
Being reactive means you wait until you get sick before you (hopefully) change your lifestyle!
What is being proactive? Being proactive is reacting before something happens!
To be proactive you change before you have to change!
Where will being proactive be very important for you?
What about your health, business, marriage, friendship, relationship with your kids, the environment etc?
If you get sick, then you start to change your diet and your lifestyle, you have been reactive.
If you start to change your diet and your lifestyle before you have to change, then you are proactive.
Which one do you prefer?
Let's look into your relationship. If you have a good one now, be proactive, that means doing everything to keep it that way. If you get slack in your relationship or take everything for granted you may find yourself on the reactive side, which may be too late.
What stops us from being proactive or from changing in general?
There are many reasons, some of which are: the fear of being wrong, the fear of making mistakes, the fear of not knowing what is around the corner!
Do not let the fear of making mistakes keep you from going where you want to go, or being where you want to be!
Have you ever been stopped from doing what you wanted to do by the fear of making a mistake?
Before I go on please ask yourself ....
- Where in your life have you been reactive?
Look at what has happened, and ask yourself how could I have been proactive?
- Look at your life now and find out where you can be proactive and change before you have to change!
- In which areas in your life have you been stopped by the fear of making mistakes, of being wrong or of being a failure?
- In which areas in your life do you always get the same response, the same problems, the same difficulties? in other words, where do you get what you always get?
- Can you change what you do, so that you don't do what you always do?
Let me demonstrate something!
Imagine that you can see me walking!
Walking: right foot - left foot -right-left-right-left, etc.
The only way to go ahead is to go: right-left-right-left-right- left.
Please listen carefully, I didn't say right - wrong!!!
There is nothing wrong with left, you have to do a left (wrong) step in order to get ahead.
You simply place one step after the other, which means:
There is no Wrong. There is no Right either, there is just learning (making a mistake) and correction!
If you are right all the time, > see what happens!
It would be like walking with the right leg only, and keeping the left one standing.
You would go around in circles. You are stuck, and sooner or later you will become obsolete, because learning has stopped and other people who are learning will take over.
It may be a safe feeling, being right, but by proving yourself right you stop yourself from learning more!
Nothing stands still. Life goes on all the time. Before you can blink your eyes, somebody has passed you by. Stop chasing, stop being reactive. Change before you have to change. It hurts less! Start looking. Where can you be proactive?
If you do what everybody else does, you end up with what everybody else has,
which may not what you want at all.
Do you like what everybody else does?
Do the things you like, and change the things that you don't like.
The bottom line at this moment is simply to learn something new. We have to do something new, even if we have to let go of what we think may be right.
I actually like to be proven wrong, as this gives me the opportunity to learn something new.
Excerpt from a workshop & book - published 1993 - titled; "Do you believe in You"
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