Dieter Luske© 1993 - ISBN 0646138111
The Articles are a representation of the Book as Workshop Manual. Questions were asked to stimulate active participation.
This book has been written in 1992 and published in 1993. That may sound like a long time ago, but surprisingly enough, the concepts, principles and strategies discussed and offered to the reader are as vital and effective today as they were in 1992.
I was facilitating a number of workshops at that time, and the book has been the result of those completed workshops including the feedback from participants of what particular techniques worked for them.
I have been always a very "encouraging > self help" type of Practitioner, giving my patients tools and strategies to work with. Similar with my workshops, it's not straight lecturing, instead it is based on participation. The audience had to do their part, they had to use offered strategies and techniques at the point of teaching.
The feedback from those workshop sessions have crystallised which techniques worked and also the ones which didn't .
The following articles are extracted from that book. The Introduction below may not indicate what this book or articles are all about. I do recommend, to read, and "participate" on one article after the other .. .. as some of the topics discussed will make sense later when "change" techniques are explained.
Most of the book is about techniques extracted from Neuro Linguistic Progressing Principles, and all techniques discussed can be used for Self Help.
Please contact me directly for more info : Dieter L. - Editor - N.D.-D.C.H.-D.M.H.-D.H
(The start of the workshop)
Learning could be one of the biggest challenges, because you are challenging what you know already! All too often we have the tendency to defend what we know already.
Before you can learn anything, you may have to change a few of your concepts, remove a few stumbling blocks, find out what stops you from learning and from getting out of life what you really want!
One of the main learning stumbling blocks is to "know something already" and to insist that whatever you know is right.
Unlearning is as important as learning!
Whenever you have to prove that you are right, you may unknowingly stop yourself from learning something New.
It is not enough to know something! True knowledge comes from understanding and acting on what you know!
I know, that you know that exercise is good for you, but true understanding is actually doing regular exercise. - Do you exercise regularly?
If you do what you always do, you get what you always get!
Do you like to get what you always get?
If you get something good, stay with it, you obviously have learned how to get it. Keep doing what you are doing, it is working!
If you don't like what you are getting, that's where you need to change what you are doing. You have to learn to stop doing what you always do, so that you won't keep getting what you don't like or don't want.
That means YOU have to CHANGE.
To change does not mean there is something wrong with you, or with what you are doing.
It simply means that there is much more to come.
What is the opposite of proactive? Yes, it is "Reactive"!
What is reactive? Being reactive is when you react to something that has already happened.
Being reactive means you wait until you get sick before you (hopefully) do something, and change your lifestyle for the better!
What is being proactive? Being proactive is reacting before something happens!
To be proactive you need to change before you have to change!
Where would being proactive be very important for you?
What about your health, business, marriage, friendship, relationship with your kids, the environment etc?
If you start to change your diet and your lifestyle before you get sick, before you have to change, you will be proactive.
Which one do you prefer, being pro-active or re-active?
Let's look into your relationship. If you have a good one now, be proactive, that means doing everything to keep it that way. If you get slack in your relationship or take everything for granted you may find yourself on the reactive side, which may be too late.
What stops us from being proactive or from changing in general?
There are many reasons, some of which are: the fear of being wrong, the fear of making mistakes, the fear of not knowing what is around the corner, and simple procrastination!
Do not let the fear of making mistakes keep you from going where you want to go, or being where you want to be!
Have you ever been stopped from doing what you wanted to do by the fear of making a mistake?
Before I go on please ask yourself ....
Now, let me demonstrate something!
Imagine that you can see me walking!
Walking now, putting my right foot forward - left foot -right - left -right - left, etc.
The only way to go ahead is to go: right-left-right-left-right- left.
Left is often assocaited with being wrong.
There is nothing wrong with putting a left foot forward, you have to do a left (wrong) step in order to get ahead.
You simply place one step after the other, which means:
There is no Wrong. There is no Right either, there is just learning (making a mistake) and a correction!
If you are "Right" at all times, > see what happens! > It would be like walking with the right leg only, and keeping the left one standing.
You would be stuck, and sooner or later you will become obsolete, because learning has stopped and other people who are learning will take over.
It may be a safe feeling, being right, but by proving yourself right you stop yourself from learning more!
Nothing stands still. Life goes on all the time. Before you can blink your eyes, somebody has passed you by.
Stop chasing, stop being reactive. Be Pro Active, change before you have to change. It hurts less!
Start looking, where can you be proactive!
If you do what everybody else does, you end up with what everybody else has, which may not be something you want at all.
Do you like what everybody else does?
Do the things you like, and change the things that you don't like.
The bottom line at this moment is simply to learn something new. We have to do something new, even if we have to let go of what we think may be right.
Be happy if you are actually proven wrong, as this gives you the great opportunity to learn something new.
Excerpt from a workshop & book - published 1993 - titled; "Do you believe in You" www.usenature.com - Dieter Luske ©