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You may think you speak positive already, (and I hope you do so, for your own good :-).
The subconscious mind has a problem with negative language, it simply doesn't understand it, but more of that in a moment.
To actually become aware of how you talk, you have to listen to yourself talk and you can do that with a simple exercise and even better with some help of your friends (correcting you).
Here is what you do:
For at least a couple of days, better a whole week, use only POSITIVE LANGUAGE, which means;
NO NEGATIONS at all.
Remember negations are everything which negates something, words like, no, not, can't, don't, won't, shouldn't, wouldn't, never, none, can't; in other words,
" you only say what YOU WANT, not what you DON'T WANT".
In fact, our subconscious mind can only understand and react to a positive statement.
It can't understand a negative statement, message or experience.
For example, try an experiment; visualise >> a cat not chasing a mouse <<
Can you do it? It would surprise me if you can.
In order for your mind to understand, and compute that message, it creates the visualisation of a cat chasing the mouse and then stops it.
This is the reason, that if you tell your child not to spill the milk, the possibility of your child spilling the milk is much higher than if you say, "hold the glass straight."
The child, in order to understand the first sentence, would mentally have to spill the milk in order not to do it.
Indeed, that is the way most parents talk to their children, and all too often, that which was not supposed to happen, happens, only to hear from the parents, I just told you not to do it. %A$#^$!
Language is extremely powerful.
Think about that in the future. Think twice before saying such things as:
"I am dying to go to the beach (please don't die, or rather, please live).
O.K. now, for one week, or longer work on to use only positive language, and LEARN TO SPECIFY WHAT YOU WANT.
Instead of saying, "don't leave your dirty clothes laying around," say: "put your clothes into the washing machine."
(By the way, negation commands are what people sometimes call nagging).
And finally on the subject of positive language;
whenever you don't get a message across, please ...... Change The Message!
Changing the message, does not mean talking louder, getting angry, using force etc., it simply means, use different words, different contents, use a different perspective, until you find the right words for that person to understand.
Awareness is the key, as soon as you become aware of not getting your message across, change your message. We will see later how to do that specifically.
More and more, we see, feel and understand that awareness is the key for CHANGE!
Excerpt from a workshop & book - published 1993 - titled; "Do you believe in You" www.usenature.com - Dieter Luske ©