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Out of popular demand, I decided to re-published my 1993 first published
self help book, titled; "Do you believe in You", as an Internet publication.
I struggled for a while with the question, "to change or not to change",
and I decided to leave it as it is.
The book is still up to date, because these self help "strategies", are still working today and probably tomorrow.

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DO YOU BELIEVE
IN

YOU

Cover - Do you believe in you

 

Dieter Luske

Do you believe in You? © Dieter Luske 1993. - All rights reserved. - ISBN 0 646 13811 1 - Internet Version: © 2001

CONTENTS

About the Author - Foreword 6 - Introduction 7 - Mind Management 12 - MM- Summary 19

CHAPTER ONE

Accelerated Learning 20 - Summary 25

CHAPTER TWO

VICTIM PRINCIPLE 28

The plural world 34 - List of victim positions 36

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Mistakes 38 - The pro-active-change list 40 - Positive language 41 - Questions 45 - Belief systems 46 -
The pendulum rule 51 - Affirmation 52 - The creative side 57 - The victim principle - Summary 58 -
The victim principle-Diagram 61

CHAPTER THREE

EMOTION 62

Unpleasant emotions 63 - Lollipop society 64 - Summary on emotion 69
Emotions and their functions 71 -
Frustration, Disappointment, Sadness, Regret, Guilt Anxiety, Overwhelmed, Hope, Anticipation - Activating emotional choice 87 -
Triggering an emotion-Summary 90 - How to keep an emotion or behaviour you want 94 - Anchor 94 -
The two ways of anchoring yourself 97 - Physical association 97 - Mental association 99 - Swish-Technique 99 -
Past-Present-Future 101 What you have achieved now 102

CHAPTER FOUR

GOAL SETTING & PURPOSE 103

Goal setting-rules 105 - Anchoring for success 106 - Your future, gain or pain 114 - What you resist will persist 119 - Love and hate 121

CHAPTER FIVE

THE SEVEN STEPS OF SUCCESS 126

APPENDIX ONE

THE ENERGY DIET 130

APPENDIX TWO

COMMUNICATION 155

APPENDIX THREE

NEURO-LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING (NLP) 163

BIBLIOGRAPHY 165

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About the Author

Dieter K. H. Luske has practised Natural Medicine, Healing through Art, Counseling and Clinical Hypnosis actively since 1981, and has facilitated his own Mind Management Seminars and Art Workshops.
Born and educated in Germany, Dieter studied Electrotechnics and Electronics and had his first business at the age of 21. He then began to realise that there is more to life than just earning a living, so, in 1974, Dieter and his wife Giselle left Germany on a two and a half year personal discovery tour. During that time they lived and traveled throughout Australia, and wrote stories of their travels for popular German Magazines.
Dieter K. H. Luske is a graduate of many personal growth courses. He holds recognised Diplomas in Naturopathy, Herbology, Homoeopathy, Clinical Nutrition, Iridology, Therapeutic Massage, NLP and Clinical Hypnosis.
In this book Dieter has used his gift for rendering complicated issues simple. He has given us, the readers, the path to self-awareness, shown us how to gain responsibility by recognising our victim positions, and taught us how to use the functional aspects of our emotions in order to achieve a happy and successful life.
His main philosophy is the idea of "creating your own life (lifestyle)", by being the cause of the effect you want to create.

Original Book design by Susie Ting

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Foreword

DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOU?

Understanding Mind (Life) Management

To believe in you, you have to know you. Read on, to discover you and therefore believe in you!
I am writing this book as a workbook.
In this book I am talking to you, I will ask you questions and I will expect answers. The answers will be for you. This book is the result of working with people in a number of seminars where learning was achieved by participation. I would like to simulate that seminar working environment in this book. Therefore participation in your case means answering my questions - in writing!
Whatever you do, don't skip the introduction as it will be a vital part of understanding this book.
This introduction will introduce you to learning, or more specifically it will remove learning blocks. Human beings are strange creatures. Although you go to a lecture, seminar or read a book to learn, you most certainly will stop at least a part of your learning by listening to a little voice in your brain. This voice may tell you things like: "What's that guy talking about?" "I know that, he could have written that better,' "that's not new," or even "I know much more" or "this is not true," etc, etc. Although, your little voice may be right, listening to it will stop you from learning.

Have you ever read a book or been to a lecture twice, only to find out that you learned something new the second time?

This process is called learning by making distinction. Actually, without distinction, we never really learn, as we basically learn only what we are willing to learn, hear or see. Are you willing to learn, hear and see much more than ever before? If so, then read on. Nothing may be new for you, your challenge will be to make distinctions, by not only reading this book, but by working with it.

True understanding results in action, in actually doing what you understand. You may find some things in this book, which even I am not aware of.

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Introduction

WELCOME!

DO YOU LIKE TO HAVE FUN?
DO YOU LIKE TO LEARN SOMETHING?
DO YOU LIKE TO COMBINE LEARNING AND FUN?
DO YOU LIKE A CHALLENGE?
If your answer is yes to all of the above question, please read on, this book may be for you!

Can learning be a challenge? Learning could be one of your biggest challenges, because you are challenging what you know already!

Before you can learn anything, you have to change a few of your concepts, remove a few stumbling blocks, find out what stops you from learning and from getting out of life what you really want!

One of the main learning stumbling blocks is to "know something already" and to insist that whatever you know is right.Whenever you have to prove that you are right, you may unknowingly stop yourself from learning something new.

It is not enough to know something! True knowledge comes from understanding and acting out what you know! Other wise you simply may have heard or read something.

I know that you know that exercise is good for you, but true understanding is actually doing regular exercise. Do you exercise regularly?

If you do what you always do, you get what you always get! Do you like to get what you always get? If you get something good, stay with it, you obviously have learned how to get it. Keep doing what you are doing, it is working!

If you don't like what you get, that's where you need to change what you are doing. You have to learn to stop doing what you always do, so that you won't keep getting what you don't like or you don't want. That means YOU have to CHANGE.
Would you like to change? Would you like to get something new or different? Would you like to get something better?
Are you ready to do something new in order to get something new? Yes? Good, then change. This book tells you how to!

To change does not mean there is something wrong with what you are doing now, it simply means that there is much more to come.
Could it be a good idea to change before you have to change?
This is called being proactive. What is the opposite of proactive? Yes, it is reactive!
We have now two statements, reactive and proactive!
What is reactive? Being reactive is when you react to something that has already happened. Being reactive means you wait until you get sick before you (hopefully) change your lifestyle!
What is being proactive? Being proactive is reacting before something happens! To be proactive you change before you have to change!
Where will being proactive be very important to you?
What about your health, business, marriage, friendship, relationship with your kids, the environment etc?
I if you get sick, then you start to change your diet and your lifestyle, you have been reactive. But if you start to change your diet and your lifestyle before you have to change them, then you are proactive.
Which one do you prefer?
Let's look into your relationship. If you have a good one now, be proactive, that means doing everything to keep it that way. If you get slack in your relationship or take everything for granted you may find yourself on the reactive side, which may be too late.
Find some other examples for yourself.
What stops us from being proactive or from changing in general?
There are many reasons, some of which are: the fear of being wrong, the fear of making mistakes, the fear of not knowing what is around the corner!
Do not let the fear of making mistakes keep you from going where you want to go, or being where you want to be!
Have you ever been stopped from doing what you wanted to do, by the fear of making a mistake?
Before I go on please ask yourself

  1. Where in your life have you been reactive?
    Look at what has happened, and ask yourself how could I have been proactive?
  2. Look at your life now and find out where you can be proactive and change before you have to change!
  3. In which areas in your life have you been stopped by the fear of making mistakes, of being wrong or of being a failure?
  4. In which areas in your life do you always get the same response, the same problems, the same difficulties? in other words, where do you get what you always get?
  5. Can you change what you do, so that you don't do what you always do?
    Let me demonstrate something!
    Imagine that you can see me walking!
    Walking: right-left-right-left-right-left, etc.
    The only way to go ahead is to go: right-left-right-left-right- left.
    Please listen carefully, I didn't say right - wrong!!!

There is nothing wrong with left, you have to do a left (wrong) step in order to get ahead.
You simply place one step after the other, which means:
There is no wrong. There is no Right either, there is just learning (making a mistake) and correction! If you are right all the time, then see what happens!
It would be like walking with the right leg only, and keeping the left one standing.
You would go around in circles. You are stuck, and sooner or later you will become obsolete, because learning has stopped and other people who are learning will take over.
It may be a safe feeling, being right, but by proving yourself right you stop yourself from learning more!

Nothing stands still. Life goes on all the time. Before you can blink your eyes, somebody has passed you by. Stop chasing, stop being reactive. Change before you have to change. It hurts less! Start looking. Where can you be proactive?
If you do what everybody else does, you end up with what everybody else has, which may not what you want at all. Do you like what everybody else does?
Do the things you like, and change the things that you don't like.
The bottom line at this moment is simply to learn something new. We have to do something new, even if we have to let go of what we think may be right.
I actually like to be proven wrong, as this gives me the opportunity to learn something new. If you have to be right in order to prove me wrong, you will not learn from this book. Even if I have to fulfill your expectations about this book, (expectations I obviously don't know), you will stop yourself from learning.
If you do have any expectations about this book, make sure to ask plenty of questions. (Write them down)

Expectations not voiced can't be fulfilled; - to know this is already Mind-Management. (Mind-Management = MM)
After finishing this book, check your questions. Which of your expectations has been fulfilled? For the others, you simply have to find yourself another book. The main thing is, don't keep looking for your expectations, as this may stop you from seeing what is right in front of your eyes.
Expectations must be expressed. As far as I know, most people go terribly wrong in attempting to read other people's minds.
What do you expect of your partner, business, children, friends etc?
Make sure you tell them, as they can't read your mind!
Never expect too much of anybody.
Without them knowing your expectations, they have no chance of fulfilling them.

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Mind-Management

Mind-management (MM) as an expression sounds simple, and management of your mind will be simple, once you know how to use it. Mind-management is made up of two words, mind and management. The combination of mind and management spells success.
If, for a moment we can believe that 100% MM is possible, then the outcome must be 100% success. Now look at yourself, and find out how much MM you have already! To help that process we will look at some of our mis- management habits!

  1. If you worry a lot, would that be good MM? NO!
  2. If you have self doubt, would that be good MM? NO!
  3. If you have emotions, which are stopping you from doing things you would like to do; - good MM? NO!
  4. What if you regret, blame, judge, feel guilty, and so on -good MM? NO!

Now ask yourself, how well are you managing your mind, and answer yourself in percentage terms. How much?

If you manage your mind 50%, very good-now you know that your success rate would also be 50%. That's how successful you are! Is that enough success for you?

Now let's go into some distinctions of success. Success can be split up into many parts, and we will all have areas in our life where we are or were 100% successful. As an example, let's say, somebody is 100% successful in business, but only 20% in relationships. Overall the success rate is not that good, and the bad relationships could spoil the success in business. Now, what can we learn from that?
It helps us to look into one area and check what we are doing right, and then check the other areas and see what is missing!

You have to know that if you are capable of being successful in one area in your life, you are also able to be successful in any other area in your life. In other words, we learn to compare our success rate in different areas in our life. We can therefore learn to enhance those areas where we would like to have more success.

Do you want to be successful? If you don't want to be successful, it could simply mean that you have a different definition of what success means! It is not limited to the material world. If you would like to be successful, then ask yourself: "why is it that I am not as successful as I would like to be?" Let's look a little bit closer. The result of good MM is success. We have looked at the result, now let's look into the parts.
The first word is Mind, let's have a good look at our mind!
Have you got a mind? Does anybody not have a mind?
Have you ever been accused of being "out of your mind," or asked "have you lost your mind" and what about "have you got your mind switched on," or even better, "mind over matter" and finally-"never mind."

What all this is indicating in a silly way is, that we actually can do something with our mind, and sometimes it is a relief to switch it off. Whatever state your mind is in now, one thing is for sure, you need to have a mind in order to manage a mind. Would you like to know how the mind works-I mean the ins and outs, what kind of chemical, hormonal, electrical connection and things like that? Yes, this could be interesting, but this is definitely not what we are doing here and I tell you why we don't go into that.
Let me explain. Can you drive a car? Yes? Excellent! Second question: Can you explain or do you know the exact way your car's engine, fuel-injection or whatsoever works? No? That's not too surprising - there is no need to know all those technical details. The main thing is to know how to get your car from point A to point B, and we all can do that very satisfactorily, thank you.
This is the reason we don't have to know how our mind works, the main thing is that we find out how to use it.
Are you interested in driving your mind exactly to the place where you want to go? That means if you know where to go.
What happens if you don't know where to go? You just drive around, wasting time, petrol, energy and other things. Have you ever had a period in your life where you wasted your energy in running around not knowing where to go and what to do, only kept busy by the task of earning a living? Are you in this state right now? 1 think it is brave to be aware and to admit what particular state you are in. There is nothing wrong with where we are at the moment, it's where we are tomorrow that counts.
Coming back to driving a car, have you ever had the experience of driving home after a long day at work, and finding yourself in front of your house, without really remembering how you actually got there?
That means, that you were absolutely sure where to go, and your subconscious mind had all the right messages and data. In an instance like that your conscious mind may daydream, but you still will be safe, and will end up where you are supposed to end up!
Once your subconscious mind knows what you want or where you want to go, it will get you there! 90% of all people don't know what they want. Once you do know what you want, you will believe in you! This is how you will learn what to do with your life. Once you have programmed yourself and know what you want, you will reach your goals, because you have managed your mind and your subconscious in such a way that it will support you. All your actions and behaviours will be directed to what you would like to get out of life.
How does that actually work? Once your mind is programmed, your subconscious mind and your nervous system will do all the hard work. You don't think consciously in order to walk across the room or to move all the right kind of muscles. The same applies to driving a car. You do everything automatically. You have actually programmed yourself throughout your life to be able to do all kinds of automatic responses.
Simply speaking, everything we are good at works by automatic response. Even in public speaking, you will find that once you have programmed yourself, everything just flows from you. If you have to think what to say next, you lose the flow of speech.
Mind-management will teach you how to get automatic responses where you need them.

You can program yourself for success!

Once you have managed your mind for a program, everything will start to happen, as everything in your subconscious mind will support you. Our behaviour, our way of speech, our belief systems, everything is geared for automatic responses. In the same way that we move forward without thinking which muscles to use, we will walk forward to our goals, without thinking which particular step comes next. We all know of the ability of our subconscious mind to guide us.
Let me give you a few examples (and maybe you know a few yourself). Before I became a "Dad", I hardly ever noticed pregnant ladies. As soon as my wife was pregnant, and my mind was programmed towards pregnancy, I saw pregnant ladies absolutely everywhere. I really wondered where they were all coming from.
Another instance is when you read something in a Magazine, about a certain person. All of a sudden, perhaps even on the same day, you hear his name mentioned again, or read more about him a few times.
Do you recognise these kind of responses in yourself? That is exactly what will happen if you have your mind programmed for a certain goal. All of a sudden, things start to happen seemingly automatically. You read something helpful, which otherwise you would have overlooked, and that in turn leads to something else. It's simply the way our awareness works; we see only what we want to see, or what we know already. Open yourself to see more than you know at the present.
By being more focused, you may start to meet new people, who you will then talk to in a different way, and therefore get different responses, and so on, and so on. If, to the contrary your belief system is geared towards. "I can't achieve my goal," then you are managing your mind negatively and your subconscious mind will block out information which could be helpful to you.

How to actually determine a goal, how to set up the right strategy to program your mind to what ever you want, or how to learn to design and create your life and achieve what you want, will all form part of this book.
Let's have a look at Management.
How important is management and are you into management? The answer is, we are all deeply involved in management. Sadly enough more people are into mis-management than into successful management. We actually are managing every little bit we do. When we wake up in the morning, we usually manage to get out of bed. We actually have to manage that, it doesn't work by itself, that's why some people with mismanagement stay in bed. In other words, if we like to have a successful day then we have to manage that all by ourselves. If we rely on other people to manage our lives we will be disappointed most of the time. And so it goes on; your partnership, your family, etc., everything needs management, and with good management you will be successful.
Look around you, do you recognise people, families, businesses, countries with bad or good management? In big business, everything has to be managed to the smallest detail. If not, what do you think will happen to the business? Yes, you are right, - kaput! What will happen to you, if you are not managing your life to the smallest details? Yes the same thing again; - kaput!
So, how important is good management to you?
Where is good management leading to? INTO SUCCESS!
Would you like to be successful? Successful in anything, partnership, family, business and of course in yourself?
Where does success start? Yes, in yourself. Where does it all start? It starts with each individual person. We are responsible for our own management, for what we get out of life. It doesn't matter how successful you are already, the question to ask yourself is: Can I be more successful?
Yes, you can, we always can.
So, the final question then is, (putting both words together, mind and management).
do we need MIND - MANAGEMENT?
After all this, you are supposed to jump out of your chair, and scream YES, I NEED IT!
Can we be without mind-management? NO! Will it help you to believe in you? DEFINITELY!
The result of mind-management will be to manage yourself better than you have ever managed yourself before, all it actually means is taking control, rather than just reacting.
Let's look for a few minutes at the flipside of good mind- management. Let's look at the negative application for mind-management.
If you "sleep in" tomorrow morning in order not to go to work, then you actually have succeeded in managing your mind. It's a pity that you did it in a destructive way, as the outcome will probably be the loss of your job. Interestingly enough, subconsciously that may be what you wanted. Nevertheless, it shows, that you can manage your mind. You just have to use it more constructively and less destructively.
The same thing applies with worry. Some people believe that they are born worriers. Firstly, nobody is born a worrier. You have to adopt that habit (which is, interestingly enough, a form of negative mind-management). Think about that for a moment; if you can manage your mind to worry yourself sick, just imagine what powers you will have if you learn to manage your mind in a more productive way! Think yourself healthy!
From worries we can go straight to habits. All habits are a form of mind-management. Have a look at your habits and sort them out to check whether they are constructive or destructive. Chuck out the destructive ones. How?You may ask. That's part of what this book is about.
OK, let's go on, with our minds switched on and no limits set, but your own, (which you may want to review after reading this book).
This brings us back to the bottom line: You are responsible for your own actions, and finally it will be all up to you. I can tell you a lot, but it is your job to 'switch on' your mind; you have to decide to use it or not.
And to finish the mind-management chapter, let me quote a Zen-story, called "A Cup of Tea."

Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era (1868-1912), received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen. Nan-in served tea. He poured until his visitor's cup was full, and then kept on pouring. The professor watched the cup overflow until he no longer could restrain himself. "It is overfull. No more will go in!" - "Like this cup," Nan-in said, "you are full of your own opinions and speculation. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?"

Did you empty your cup?

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Mind-Management Summary - Question -

We only see what we know of, or what we want to see, and we only hear what we want to hear.
Therefore we are only aware of what we want to be aware of.
To widen awareness we can ask ourselves questions and answer those questions truthfully to ourselves.
How well do I manage my mind now?

  1. Why am I not as successful as I would like to be?
    Especially in those areas, where I like to be more successful?
  2. Who is in control of my mind and my thoughts?
  3. If you do what you always do, you get what you always get!
    If you do not like what you always get, then find out, what it is that you do, that causes you to get what you always get.
  4. Does the fear of making mistakes or fear of failure prevent you from doing what you want to do?
  5. Where in your life have you been reactive?
    Look at what has happened, and ask yourself how could I have been proactive? Look at your life now and find out where you can be proactive, and change before you have to change!
  6. Are you right or are you wrong?
  7. Do you have to make something or someone wrong in order to be right?
  8. If you have to be right, will you be able to learn something new?
  9. If you believe you are right, do you believe that you know the truth?
    The more right you need to be, the less sure you are of yourself.
    Self esteem means to have the ability to be wrong, which is the ability to learn!
  10. How much Self Esteem do you have?
  11. How much do you believe in you?

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CHAPTER ONE

Accelerated Learning 20 - Summary 25

I lecture in a style which is known as accelerated learning. This will obviously not help you very much while reading this book, but I am sure that you will find the subject very interesting and you will be able to use specific techniques like MIND MAPS. Have you noticed that I ask a lot of questions? Participation is one key to learning.
If you answer my questions, then you are supplying the data for your own growth.
If you supply the data, you will remember the data.
Don't believe that Ihave all the answers.
The difference between knowing and understanding is the difference between reading or hearing something and experiencing it. One way of experiencing is participation and articulation. In order for the mind to digest something, it is not enough to think about it. By articulating what you think, you put meaning to words, which helps you to understand and therefore remember.
How can you use this key for learning?
In future, if you read or study something, have a short break, then ask yourself the right questions and answer aloud! As soon as you have put your own meaning to whatever you have studied, you will remember it and be able to recall it with ease.
The next key is VISUALISATION. I use flip charts for lecturing, and MIND MAPS for my own studies, reading, planning, goal-setting and more or less for everything I do. On these flip charts I use different colours to stimulate visualisation, which in turn stimulates the right side of the brain.
We use about 4-6% of our brain capacity, and this is mainly left side brain use. If we start to use the right side of our brain we can effectively double our brain capacity.
The trusty old left side is serving us very well, and we would not be able to speak without it, as it controls language and mathematical formulae. It is our logic side and it shows us the sequence of things. We also need it for analysis, (altogether pretty important stuff).
Do you like your left brain? Yes? Say "thank you" to you left brain and ask now for permission to use more of the right side of your brain.
The right side is our creative side. It is music and rhythm, imagination, daydreams, forms, patterns, images, pictures and colours. It is also the tune of a song, BUT NOT THE WORDS-that is the left side. This is the reason that singing helps us to bring right and left sides together.
Do you believe that the right side is as important as the left side? Yes, it certainly is. One should not be without the other. The power comes from teamwork, working together, each helping the other. The right side will show you the big picture, the left side the details. Having one without the other may be the big difference between being successful or unsuccessful.
What can you do to stimulate the right side of the brain? Colour, showing the big picture, the overview, asking questions to stimulate your imagination and of course music.
The music we are using is BAROQUE MUSIC, as this music is written in sixty beats per second. WHAT DOES THAT MUSIC RESEMBLE? Yes, the heartbeat in a state of relaxation.
Which brings us to relaxation. Do you learn better when in a relaxed state of mind? Yes. You can concentrate and think much better when you are relaxed. There is a reason for it. We have four different kinds of brainwaves. We will concern ourselves mainly with two of them.
The first one is called BETA WAVE which has a frequency of 14-21 cycles per second and is the wave we use in our ordinary waking state. The BETA WAVE, will increase in times of stress. If it rises as high as 60 cycles per second you will become hysterical. If it goes much higher than that you will black out.
The second one is called ALPHA, with a frequency of 7-14 cycles per second, and that is the state of relaxed alertness. You are calm and peaceful, with clear creative thinking. Ideas, solutions and intuitive breakthroughs occur, and studies are easy. In this state you can reach your full potential. That is the state we desire. This is what we want for learning or for painting! By the way, this is also the state for body regeneration, increased health and vitality.
Cancer patients have used this alpha state to regenerate and to refocus their attitudes and belief systems through relaxation and meditation. This is why we should put ourselves into a relaxed state before doing any mental work.

I don't want to spend twenty minutes of your time putting you into a relaxed state. What you will do instead is to give your subconscious mind a message that you are giving yourself permission to relax. This will take only three minutes-are you ready?
Please sit comfortably, and as you sit comfortably, allow yourself to relax and take a deep breath ..... yesss--and hold it ..... and breathe out ...... yes, gooood, and again, an even deeper breath, and hold it ..... collect all your tensions and breathe out letting go of those tensions ..... and the last deep breath ..... yes and holding, holding and breathing out letting go the rest of your tension ...... that's good, fine, and as you sit in your chair you can continue to relax.....becoming more and more relaxed, giving all your muscles permission to relax ..... and telling yourself-I allow myself to relax, its OK, I am safe and secure in my present situation ...... from now on, whenever I sit here in this room and hear this music I am relaxed. (Play some Baroque music while reading).
Thank you, slowly open your eyes and keep that relaxed feeling.

Before we go into mind maps, some more points on the accelerated lecturing style. There is a reason that a lecturer walks around or stands while you sit. The act of your looking up stimulates learning and visualisation. In fact you experience a learning increase of about 25% by just looking up. You will have a further learning increase if you use the right body language-that is sitting relaxed, arms and legs uncrossed. You simply will open yourself up that way.

Next we will talk about MIND MAPS, and after that I will list a number of techniques to further increase your learning and your retention ability.

MIND MAPS-FLIP CHART With whatever you study or read, you can start from now on to take your notes in a mind map style. Have some paper and coloured pens ready. (I usually use the paper horizontally, but you can use it whichever way you choose). You should have at least, red, blue, green, black pens and yellow is nice to highlight certain areas.
Our brains do not work in a linear fashion. We can work better if we jump from one place to another, connecting messages with lines or drawings.
The more colourfully, humourously and meaningfully you can do it, the better the result.
You will remember outstanding things much more clearly than dull things.
Remember; one picture is worth a thousand words.
Mind maps are not only for studying, they are a perfect tool for organising, planning or developing business strategies. You will not find a better way to prepare speeches or business meetings. For everything you have to remember you can design a mind map.
Start by writing the main heading in the middle, and continue to put sub-headings around it, in whatever fashion feels right to you.
Your first mind map can be about mind maps and accelerated learning itself. This will be like a short rehearsal of this lecture.

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ACCELERATED LEARNING PART 2
SUMMARY

  1. Two brains are better than one! Do everything you can to stimulate the right side of your brain. Use music, colour, imagination, daydreaming, looking upwards, alpha relaxation, drawing and painting and looking at the big picture, (the overview).
  2. Your brain has enormous potential. it is capable of much more than you have imagined. The only limits are the limits you have placed on yourself, your belief system and your attitudes.
  3. Mental ability does not decline with age!! Blood supply may decline, therefore circulation is vital! Constant stimuli improve mental ability, USE IT, OR LOSE IT!!
    Memory is not a bottle which fills up and overflows. Memory is like a tree, the more branches on the tree, the greater the possibility for new branches to grow.
  4. Memory is divided into short term and long term memory.
    Short term is the working memory, (reading the words), and works by electrical impulses.
    Long term is the meaning of a memory and it is permanent, and works by chemical impulses.
  5. Transform short term memory into long term by rehearsing what you have learned and put meaning to. Articulate and visualise what you have learned. Put it into association with other things you know. Every person has his or her own specific way of memorising something. How do you memorise names? Ask other people how they do it-you may be surprised to find out totally new ways of memorising something.
  6. Words and facts linked to pictures in your mind are easier to learn and remember.
    Memory or recall depends on association, which means linking ideas together. For example: if you hear the word boat, you are likely to forget it again in a matter of minutes. If you associate the word boat with a picture in your mind of a boat, you will remember it longer.
    You can then associate further, linking the word with a picture of a boat which looks funny or bizarre, or a boat you know, then further associate it with a person.
    For example: "that boat belongs to my friend Bob." You will not forget it ever again.
  7. Visual memory is perfect. You only have to use it.
    The key to memory is therefore, to improve your visualisation and to form strong visual association of new material. In other words, become your own internal movie director, associate pictures, storylines, plots, meanings, everything in one big picture and get the overview.
  8. Basically the more time you spend learning the better the learning.

    USE IT OR LOSE IT
    Attention span and learning breaks are of vital importance. A normal attention time is about fifty minutes, and after that the learning curve goes down. Why is that? After a certain time of learning, or input, you need time to sort, store and compute. Your brain does that automatically, but while it does it, new information may not reach your attention. That's why at lectures you can see people drifting off after about one hour. The lecturer notices that and tries to get your attention by talking faster. Does that work? No, it makes it worse. That's why we have breaks after about one hour.
    An ideal learning time-pattern is:
    Immediate rehearsal within the short term memory span.
    A test after 10 minutes. Ask yourself questions.
    A review after the first hour.
    A review after an overnight rest. Sleep reinforces memory.
    A short review after one week.
    A short review after a month.
  9. Individual lessons should have breaks, because you always remember best in the beginning and at the end of a lecture. The more breaks you have, the more you will be able to remember!
  10. Individual lessons should incorporate something outstanding in the middle, according to same principle as above. Interrupt learning with stretching, dancing or getting a glass of water, etc.
  11. Learning by example is easier (association). 1
  12. Chunking is an important tool to aid memory. An example is a phone number, or any other number, rather than remembering each individual number we group or chunk, them together.
    Instead of 2-5-6-1-8-9, you go 25 - 61 - 89. Try it, find 'which one is easier.
  13. Memory works better with association. A network of associated ideas is a MIND MAP.
  14. Suggestion can improve memory performance greatly in two ways;
    i) by positive suggestion, that you believe you can do it.
    ii) by unblocking the negative suggestion that something cannot be done. In other words, unblocking old belief systems, attitudes, values and standards. The negative suggestions are often formed in childhood. If you have been convinced as a child by your parents or by your teacher that you are stupid, then you will have a hard time learning anything. The school system is a typical WIN/LOSE system, which will sooner or later cause most children to become losers. To prove that point, ask yourself, have I had only 'A' grades? If not, then by the school system you have made mistakes, which, makes you a loser, which of course is not true.
  15. Finally if you work and study with all your senses, especially with VISUAL, AUDITORY and KINESTHETIC, you ensure that you have a highly co-ordinated learning system for the best possible memory. Therefore you look at something, hear something and get the feel for it.

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Chapter Two

Victim Principle

(I would like to change the title to: "The Creative Principle)

Before you read on, get some paper and write down what you appreciate about yourself.
Please do that now and take some time thinking about it. It is very important that you do that.

Do It Now!

One big lesson we all have to learn, (even if we know it already) is that we are each responsible for ourselves. Not understanding this fact of life will bring misconceptions, hardship and the victim position itself.
What is the victim position you ask? It's coming up now!
This session will start making you aware about your own responsibilities and how you can choose to accept them and work with them.

AS LONG AS YOU ARE A VICTIM, YOU WILL NOT BELIEVE IN YOU!

Throughout life we are confronted with facts. What are facts?
Facts are: rain, war, peace, a car crash, crime, sunshine, love, progress, a broken window, a birthday present, a divorce, a wedding, reading this book, time passing, anything and everything! Facts have got only one thing in common; once a fact is a fact, it can't be changed!
A FACT IS A FACT AND THAT'S IT, NO WAY BACK, NO RETURN, NO CHANGE, THAT'S IT!
We have got three facts right now:
The first fact: "our self -I-." You are the fact.
The second fact: "that we are confronted with facts at all times."
The third fact
: if we can't change a fact-what can we change?
The answer is: WE CAN CHANGE OUR ATTITUDE!
This brings us to one of the basics in mind-management, the ability to actually CHANGE something in one's mind. In this instance the attitude!

What kind of mind-management and how much you believe in you depends entirely on how you react when faced or confronted with a fact. Facts are happening continuously. The passing of time is one fact, how do you like getting older by the second? What is your attitude towards age? Look into the mirror, what you see is what you get, a fact. Do you like what you see? Your whole life from the moment you are born right to this very second is a fact. Can you change it?

Let's look at how we can change our attitude if confronted with a fact.
The scene: A picnic is planned for Sunday morning. Everything is ready, all your friends are invited, the food is prepared, the drinks are on ice, etc. You wake up and it is pouring with rain, and no sun in sight.
That is a fact; can you change it? Think about this kind of easy fact for a while; how would you react? What would you do? What kind of reaction would this fact bring out in you? There are basically two types of reactions to choose from.
The first one could be; what a#@$*&0/o@$+)*A%#%#@, lousy day! That's it! I hate it! This always happens to me! No picnic-why me? I knew that would happen! Stuff this! etc.
The second one; it's raining, that is certainly good for my plants, looks like a great day for a indoor party, etc.

The fact of course is quite simple: it is not a lousy day it is not a good day either, it is a rainy day, and that is it. You may as well enjoy it. The rest is all attitude.
From now on, we will call the first reaction the VICTIM REACTION and the second reaction the CREATOR REACTION, and guess which one we will use in mind- management? It will not be the victim one, you can be sure of that!
As you may know, or may have guessed, (or are going to find out), we are very good victims already-most of us, most of the time! We certainly don't have to learn more about how to become a victim. To manage our minds we have to learn to be aware and to recognise our victim positions, and then to change our attitudes to a creative position. We also have to be aware that it is our responsibility to choose the CREATOR REACTION and therefore choose to live a life of truly understanding responsibility.
You would know, that there will always be facts in your life which you definitely do not like. Does it come to you as a surprise, that 90% of people are constantly victims, and some without knowing it, or even choosing it?

WHY WOULD ANYBODY CHOOSE TO BE A VICTIM?
Because it seems easier to deal with problems and a lifestyle you know, than it is to CHANGE and face something you don't know.
Choosing mind-management means choosing the creative line of thinking. Falling back into the traps of the victim line of thinking, may mean a further loss of self-esteem and self worth, making you even more of a victim. Are you still interested in mind management and choosing reactions which are creative?

  • Could it mean you have to change your attitude?
  • Could it mean a bit of hard work and some confrontation with yourself
  • Are you willing to change?

Let's look now in detail into the victim line of thinking and let's SEE, HEAR and FEEL, how much this is part of us. You may not even want to know all your victim positions, but that is your own responsibility.

For any CHANGE to manifest itself, YOU have to be aware of what to change first. You do that by asking questions of yourself. You are more likely to answer truthfully to yourself than to any other person, so please, don't fool yourself. Throughout this book I will ask you certain questions, and these questions will help you to call thoughts into your awareness, which you may not have had before. This will be your "homework', and naturally it is up to you to do it ,or not to do it. I am not standing behind you with a big stick.
You may want to list these questions separately, as some will be appropriate for you and some may not. Funnily enough, reading this book a second time, may bring out other appropriate questions for yourself.
Here comes, one of the major questions. Others may be hidden in the text:

"DO I WANT TO BE A VICTIM?"

If "NO," then change your attitude and change it NOW!

"THE POWER IS IN THE PRESENT"

What does this mean, the power is in the present? It means action, - action NOW! We may have good intentions, good ideas and so on, but unless we put them into action we remain powerless. The point of change has to be now, as this is where the power is.
You have no power over the past and no power over the future. You may think you have power over the future, however the fact is that you never can determine or predict what will happen.

THE ONLY POWER YOU HAVE IS "NOW".

If you don't change now, you are more or less with the same circumstances tomorrow, that you are with today.
If you are poor today, unless you change something right now, you will be poor tomorrow.

WHEN DO YOU CHANGE? -NOW- !

Everybody is born perfect, and everybody basically wants the same thing, which is:
LOVE, -TO BE LOVED AND TO LOVE SOMEBODY!
There is nothing wrong with YOU or other people. We are all perfect, but we have been contaminated with thought pollution. Most of that thought contamination came from our childhood and our basic data-line education. We grow up with the rule: "do as you are told." Most information we take in as a child, we take it in as truth without having the ability to check it out. A lot of our so called truths came about through misunderstandings and by taking on values of our parents, families, teachers, cultures, religions and ideologies.

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BELIEF SYSTEMS, STANDARDS AND VALUES!

If you can't explain where your belief system, standards and values are coming from,
then watch out, they may not be your own.

If you are not aware of this and if you actually don't know your own beliefs, standards and values, then how can you change them?
The answer comes from asking the right questions. Once we are aware of our values, we can choose different reactions, which will lead us to more responsible and different paths of life. Therefore, with the right values, we are in a position to change our social system for the better. Whatever happens to us in life, it is of no use to blame this system. If you do, you have found your first victim position.
Our system is far from being perfect, but it is the only one we have at the moment.

ANY SYSTEM IS BETTER THAN NO SYSTEM

If the system is not working, then you and I, the people have to change it. If you live in a system you dislike, but don't do anything to change, then you can't believe in you. This would be hypocritical wouldn't it?

BLAME!

Blaming, criticising etc., is of no use at all. Don't wait if you know you have to change something, other people are also waiting. People are always waiting for somebody else to "fix it"; these people wait in their victim positions. Don't be a victim. If you are aware that the system is not working then change it, or go to somebody who can change it. It is your responsibility as much as anybody else's.

You will now set out to find your various victim positions, this will help you to become aware of your BELIEF SYSTEM, STANDARDS and VALUES.
The most common factor in any victim position is:
blame; blaming somebody, something, the system, those politicians, our parents, our teachers, our partner, our boss, our job, the inflation, the high interest rates and of course one really big one is:

BLAMING ONESELF.

The list is endless. It is always easy to blame somebody or something else for our misfortunes, to blame oneself, or sit down and cry "poor me" and still not do anything. How many times have you told yourself, "this is not my fault," or "I can't help anything, she/he did it, I couldn't, they wouldn't, etc."

QUESTION TIME:
Who do you blame? Your mother in law, the traffic light, the doctor, the politicians, the gallery director for not taking your painting?
Look into your own situation.
Who and what do you blame? Why? What is your excuse? Write it all down. Some of your blaming may even come in handy, in learning how to create new goals for yourself.

Another frequent victim position is STRESS. Stress comes in two forms.
The first is the one we deal with in the victim position and in that form stress is just a short word for saying: IT'S NOT MY FAULT!
I am sure you can recognise the victim-blame position again. Take a moment and think about the stress in your life.
How did it originate? Did you cause it yourself. If you did, can you also solve it?
The second form of stress comes from circumstances you have no control of, like the death of a loved one. Emotions of grief, loss, sadness, confusion and anger which always follows in such situations will be highly stressful. Interestingly enough, all those emotions are more or less designed to help you overcome such an experience.
Each emotion in its right place, at the right time and for the right duration is helpful and positive, and turns only into a victim position if you indulge in one emotion and stay with it. For example; being sad for the rest of your life and blaming your sadness on the person who died, or indulging in self pity.
Still more victim positions to come.

CRITICISING, JUDGING and NAME-CALLING are similar to BLAME and JUSTIFYING.

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The Plural World

There are always two sides to everything. We live in a plural world where one by itself cannot exist. This is the reason why we can't be right all the time. If you were, you would be dead, which is called dead-right.
Everything is forever changing. When will we ever reach a final solution?
How many times have you thought that you were right, only to find out a year later that you were probably right at that time, but possibly no longer? We are all learning all the time, so each day, with more information coming in, we have to slightly change our position as to what is right or wrong.
Now, consider CRITICISM etc.
I am sure criticism can have a positive role, but how do most of us use it most of the time? As soon as you criticise, you automatically take on the role of knowing something better or doing something better. Do you know better? Are you right? Have you got all the facts? That is the form of criticism I like to expose, the criticism where you try to prove that you are right and somebody else therefore has to be wrong.
There actually is such a position of. being right and not having to prove the other one wrong. Even in situations where there are two totally different opinions, both parties can be right. Each is right in his own understanding, with his facts in his particular state of mind at that moment.
As soon as you stop yourself criticising, judging etc, you will find out something astounding: your SELF ESTEEM will rise. Why is that? If you stop criticising, you forget that other people are criticising you, and therefore you will become less SELF- CONSCIOUS!
Art is a good example, what can you criticise, the technique, the taste of subject? How do you feel if some one talks down your painting, and how do you cope with it?
Or consider public-speaking, have you ever been in a room, looked at the speaker, then started to take him or her apart? To your surprise it was then your turn to say some words. What were you thinking on your way to the front? Do I look all right? Will I sound all right? What will that speaker think of me?
Feel that knot in your stomach closing? - All that you have dished out now comes back to you.
So, now is the time to remember the golden rule:
"DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU".
There are, as far as I know, only two practical ways to get out of such a destructive thought pattern. The first one is simply not to do it.
The second one is to STATE THE FACT, always come back to the fact.
What's the fact-jack? For example, instead of saying to yourself "that speaker wears a stupid tie," you simply state the fact that he is wearing a tie. He obviously likes his tie, or he wouldn't wear it. You don't have to like it.
If you criticise the context of his speech, state the fact, and remember whatever he is saying is right for him (at this very moment). If you believe you have more current information or more facts, you may want to present those facts to him without making him wrong. Just state the facts.
In reacting in any other way you become a victim, as you would carry hostile thoughts around with you for probably a long time.
The other victim position would be in missing something you could have learned by concentrating on the lecture, instead of concentrating on how you could prove that you know something more or better than the speaker.
Another example: a motorist cuts you off as you are driving peacefully along (never making any mistakes yourself, of course). Your first reaction may be "stupid idiot, where did he get his licence?" Again, this makes you the victim, because that other person is long gone, probably not even aware of any wrongdoing, while you stew in your own juice getting angrier by the minute, failing to understand how such ruthless drivers are allowed on the road.
Talking "meanly" to yourself brings you deeper and deeper into your victim position and maybe even closer to your first heart attack.
To change your victim position, you have to become aware of what you are doing to yourself. Once you notice yourself reacting as in the above example, use the: "what is the fact jack?" routine. You state the fact: "that car has just cut me off". That's it. Nothing else has happened and thank your lucky stars for that. Everything else happened only in your mind.

VICTIM POSITIONS

Let us continue with a whole list of victim positions. With each victim position stated, you can evaluate which ones you can put your name against. Having recognised your victim positions, write them down for safe-keeping, as we will come back to them later.

Frustration, loneliness, rejection or feeling rejected, hurt, anger, sadness, guilt, greed, being ignored, sickness, poverty, never can make enough, never lucky, feeling trapped, pain, covering up, ignorance, boredom, feeling lost, silently suffering, distrust, yes but, feeling offended, feeling ashamed, feeling defensive, justifying, denial, lies, feeling picked on, why me?
And generally.. All BELIEF SYSTEMS that go along with the idea that "I CAN'T CHANGE."
All emotion, feelings mistakes without learning experiences.
Statements such as: I CAN'T, I TRY, I SHOULD or SHOULDN'T, and many, many more!!

I am sure there are many more; please add some of your own.
Now let's have a close look at some of those, and examine them further. Which one of the following statements is the most powerful?

I CAN'T; I WON'T; I TRY
Before reading on, write down your answer and the reason for your answer. Don't read on yet. You always learn more through experience and /or by making mistakes.
Write down your answer now, then check how your answer compares with my opinion.

If you wrote down, "I can't" you may like to change your attitude.
I believe we can do everything we put our minds to. If it seems impossible, it just means that at the present time we may not possess certain knowledge or capabilities.
For example, if we had stayed with the belief that man can't fly, we never would have taken off into the air. Thank God there are always people with strong positive visions who overcome the negative state of "I can't," otherwise we would be still living in caves.
Are you one of those strong positive persons?
As you may have guessed by now "I can't" is not the most powerful statement.
Quite to the contrary, it is a COP OUT!
Let's have a look at, "I try," and if you were of the belief that it is positive to; "try very hard," forget about it. "Try" is a another cop out. In effect, "try" is the best excuse for not achieving anything. The typical response is, "but I tried so hard." Don't "try", just DO IT!
From now on, whenever you are tempted to say "I will try," replace it with "I will do it."

Finally we come to the powerful statement of, "I won't." This is powerful, not an excuse, simply powerful. At most times when you say "I can't," what you really mean is, "I will not." So please, in future, instead of saying I can't, simply say, 'I won't." This will make you aware of what you really mean. This will also mean that you may find more victim positions in yourself. And by now, you should have a good idea as to what your victim positions are.
This is one of the first steps to a supportive self- awareness. Once you know some of your victim positions, you have no excuse not to change. This is mind- management in action, becoming aware of your victim positions and doing something about it.
(Going back a bit, you will remember the section that says nothing is right or wrong. This needs one more explanation: In order to communicate we need to agree on something. Whatever we agree upon is RIGHT for that moment).
Becoming aware of a victim position does not mean that you are wrong. Quite the opposite, you simply learn something. It actually comes to the crunch when you don't learn anything, as that makes you a real victim. In other words, knowing of a victim position and not doing anything about it makes you a real victim, and deep inside yourself you will know that you are wrong. Why wrong? Because you know you could change but you are afraid to. You therefore limit yourself, and do not take on life's challenges. It possibly shouldn't be called wrong either, but more like being in a state of limbo or having walking death syndrome.
Being aware of the victim principle means, you can't have an excuse any more. You can't pretend ignorance any more, you know your victim position, and you also know that you are responsible for your own changes.
So, how can you change from being in a victim position?
You change by changing you attitude.
HOW TO CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE..
Rule 1: You have to be willing to change!!
Rule 2: If whatever you are doing is not working, do something else. Anything, just do something else!
This may just sound too simple, but often, the simplest things in life are the best things.
The principle is:
ANY ACTION HAS A REACTION. - (cause and effect)
Therefore there will be always a different reaction if you change an action. A small change made at this second will turn out to be a huge change at the end. And whatever you have done, or however you have reacted in the past has never been a mistake, as long as you learned your lessons.
Which brings us to the next subject - MISTAKES!
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