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Article by Julianna Suranyi

Why Doing Nothing About a Problem Person Can be Your Undoing

You know that feeling you get when someone is just not fitting with your plans? Whether it’s in your business, at work, within friendships, or within your family? When this happens and we feel a vague unease in one area of our life we should examine why that piece of our life puzzle is not working – and do something about it.

If you have a firm strategy that you are working to in the key areas of your life, you will begin to gather, manage and nurture people around you into obvious and quiet positions. So if you are unsettled in one area by a person you need to examine their behaviour in that environment to see what they are not bringing to your situation at this time and discuss this with them.  

For example, if you do not feel confident that a person is able to help you, or deliver the outcomes that you seek – look at why. Is it because they do not have the discipline you need of them at this time? Or is their agenda completely different to yours?

Revisit the last six weeks of discussions, dealings and interactions you have had with this person. Look specifically at this period of time because according to the principles of Intuitive Profiling, the six week window after addressing an issue should bring forth changes and optional behaviours from the person with whom you have worked or discussed an issue with yourself as the co-profile.

If once you revise this behaviour you realise that the person is not moving the core of their behavior, or has no intention to, you must take action. If the resources have been given and the support for this person is evident, it may be the sad truth to face that it is time to remove this person from your sphere.

We have all been here. Been where we have tried to make this person, situation or friendship work. We’ve given the benefit of the doubt, active support or even passive support via tolerance to this particular person in the hope that they will just turn the corner and come into a safe position within our sphere. This is not always possible.

Feeling empowerment in our lives will mean that we often have to make decisions that we least like to make, but that have to be made. Understanding what makes you work to your optimum level and how this roll-on effect enriches your family, friendships and environment will give you back the control you need to be successful. It brings balance back into your home, your work and yourself.

Asking yourself a simple question of ‘how is this person/thing/situation adding a value and benefit to my life?’ is not calculating but empowering. If someone is not adding to your life, then you must release them. If you don’t, your strategy and purpose will be removed from its focus and you will waste valuable time away from your path.

When was the last time you tolerated a person, situation or environment just because you did not want to offend or upset? Passive acceptance of, or ignoring, a problem person is one of the key indicators of a misguided strategy and can be your undoing. It needs to be looked into, understood and managed so that you are free to achieve and are not derailed.

Professional Psychic, Intuitive Profiler and Spiritual Philosopher Julianna Suranyi offers personal guidance, behavioral change and spiritual growth online, corporately, via courses and in the media. Ask her a question now at

3 Sep 2010

Article/Information supplied by Julianna Suranyi

Disclaimer - Any general advice given in any article should not be relied upon and should not be taken as a substitute for visiting a qualified medical Doctor.