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Tantra for luscious couples
Kerry and Diane Riley
Founders of the Australian School of Tantra
Tantra is a catch word for many people who are looking to add another dimension in their sexual loving. Tantric sex is more than just physical, it incorporates the body, mind, heart and soul. Tantra is not just about technique it is about letting go of preconceived ideas and thoughts of what you think sex is.
First you start in allowing yourself to relax. And to let go of concerns and thoughts! So that you can love to your fullest and give love and receive love as if nothing else exists!
Tantra teachers suggest you take some time to still your mind and share quiet intimacies with your beloved. This opens the flow of authentic sexual energies between you and your partner. We are usually too busy, and either too focused on our bodies urges, or on our emotional desires. We want particular circumstances to be right for us, for her to be turned on, for him to have said or done the right things, before we are open to sex.
What do you really want? Most women to create more intimacy as lovers and that often require stepping outside your comfort zones and doing some quite different. Sometimes, during heightened sexual experience, we move into a blissful state , a timeless space where we feel totally connected to our partner, ourselves, and everything, the sky, the sun, the ocean all of nature! Sounds trippy? Well we all know that sex can be a natural high. So why wait? Ecstatic sex! It’s free, it’s safe but be ware it can be addictive!
Well how do we get there?
Here are three tips from the ancient traditions of sacred sexuality that can take lovemaking to new levels.
Setting up a love space
Every Goddess of love requires a suitable place to practice her arts. Make your bedroom an expression of your sensuality. You can start with a vase of flowers, a feather, a shell, and an antique perfume bottle on a small bedside table, anything that symbolizes the feminine. Perhaps put new curtains and new pillows in the room and place books of love or erotic poetry next to your bed. It can be a place that when you step into it, you feel transformed. By doing this, you are creating a world of your own choosing, an expression of your innermost self, where you feel relaxed and beautiful. Let that aspect of Aphrodite come forth, for she is the Goddess of love and Beauty, creating beautiful surroundings that soothe the spirit and please the senses, a place where your lovemaking is an expression of your divine self.
Lie naked beside your partner. Look gently into their eyes. This is called eye gazing. For some, it is a process that may take a little while to get used to as it can be uncomfortable at first to look and to be seen; you or your partner may feel shy or embarrassed. If you need to shut your eyes from time to time to rest them, do so for a moment, and then open them again to look gently at your partner.
Lovemaking breathing practices
Special breathing practices are an integral part of a Goddess of love secrets. Breathing is as natural as being born. It is an automatic function of our bodies and most people don't give it much thought unless they're out of breath or gasping for breath. Slow down and take your time. Try breathing in rhythm with each other for 3 to 4 minutes.
Disclaimer - Any general advice given in any article should not be relied upon and should not be taken as a substitute for visiting a qualified medical Doctor.