Tantra sex for ejaculation control and tantra techniques for erectile dysfunction
Extract from “Sexual Secrets for Men: What every woman will want her man to know,’ copyright Random House 1995. Author Kerry and Diane Riley Directors Australian School of Tantra , offers tantra courses in Tantra massage for men, Tantra massage for women, tantra massage for couples. And Tantra Sex Secrets for all common concerns around sexuality and relationships beyond tantra massage there are Tantra skills that make you a better lover, all taught at the Australian School of Tantra, including Tantra Teacher training and Tantra Goddess sessions.
Tantra has proven methods to master ejaculation control. Sexually, men face two major difficulties throughout their lives. Tantra provides a solution. Tantra technique one is helpful for, being able to last long enough to satisfy a woman, or even satisfy yourself. After weeks of anticipation, it is often all over in a few minutes. Do you remember those times? Or are you still in the position of sometimes not lasting as long as you would like? What an embarrassment it is for a man of any age to ejaculate too soon. Not a happy memory.
Tantra is important for your women because if you ejaculate too soon she is left feeling frustrated and sometimes angry. Even though she might not say so or show it, she feels it. Not good times for a man of any age. I would rate ejaculating before you want to, high on any man's private list of embarrassing times.
Tantra offers you something to do about it. The first step is to acknowledge it to yourself. Remember, you are not the only man who faces this difficulty.
The second major difficulty is: at some stage in your later years, you will no longer come too soon, but you won't come at all. You won't be able to get an erection and suffer erectile dysfunction or if you do, it certainly won't stand up as straight and hard as it used to. Very often your woman's sexual energy has increased because most women reach their sexual prime when they are over forty. There is the opportunity for sex, but you can't do anything about it because your sexual energy is not as strong. If you do get an erection and ejaculate, instead of the mind-blowing explosion it used to be, it barely trickles out. It's more like a squeak than a roar. If you haven't experienced this yet, I guarantee that at some stage it will happen.
However there is something you can do about it, as it is not necessarily a part of ageing. These major difficulties can be overcome through learning the essential techniques of ejaculation control and erection strengthening.
I'd like to share with you two typical stories of men who participated in our workshops. One was Luke, 18, and the other was Rob, in his late fifties.
When I was about fifteen, I was so sexually charged I didn't actually think about much else. Even the movement of the school bus gave me an erection. I'd be putting my books or my jumper over it, worrying that I would still have it when I was getting off the bus.
'Later on when I started meeting women, we would cuddle and carry on in the back seat of the car or wherever we were, and I'd be so hot that by the time I touched her vagina, I'd be too excited to enter, or if I did enter it would be all over too quickly. Sure enough it wouldn't be long before I became erect again, but the second time was never as good and the third time was even worse. I never told anyone this was happening, so it was a great relief to talk about it in Kerry's workshop where he first introduced me to these techniques.
'I practised them by myself. It was great that there were practices that I could do without a woman, because I wasn't always in a relationship. Then I practised with a girlfriend. It took some time but I persisted, and my girlfriend had her first orgasm. She admitted she had been pretending in the past, but this time she'd actually 'come' and it made me feel great.'
'After I turned forty, I noticed my desire for sex wasn't as strong as it used to be. After I turned fifty, my erections were certainly not as strong and yet my wife's sexual energy was increasing. I found that I was staying away from home a lot of the time. I played more golf than ever before and came home late from work. I was either consciously or subconsciously afraid of not being able to fulfil her sexual needs.'
'I noticed that after she turned forty, she became an angry, nagging woman and we continually argued about all sorts of things. Now I see it was her frustration about not being sexually satisfied. I'm sure it was to do with that, because since I've learnt these techniques and she is getting sexual satisfaction, she is much easier to live with. I'm retired now and we make love sometimes three times a day.
'I didn't realise there were so many men out there who are secretly unhappy because they aren't satisfying their women the way they used to. I also didn't realise there are so many frustrated women out there, so many angry women, not getting what they need, all because of the lack of education in the art of lovemaking. I wish I'd had more sexual education when I was young. In my youth I wasn't even aware that women had orgasms. I'm really glad that I have much more sexual knowledge now.
Luke and Rob's stories are typical of many of the people with whom Diane and I have worked. With them we have shared many different sexual secrets. Although the skill of ejaculation control is not all there is to lovemaking, it's vital to getting what you or your beloved want from making love. There is a prevailing view that skill isn't what lovemaking is all about. But if you don't have the skill, how can you experience something new? If you don't know how to peel an orange, you will never taste the sweetness the orange has to offer. Without skill and control over your ejaculation, you will never experience the pleasure that lovemaking has to offer.
Of the teachers I have met who are trained in these skills and of the students I have taught, each has expressed to me the deep satisfaction it gives them to be able to choose when to ejaculate and when not to. You might doubt that it is possible to make love as long as you like and at any stage. I too was sceptical when I was first introduced to this possibility, but my experience at forty-five is that my erection is as strong as it was when I was eighteen. I make love as many times as I wish and feel energised after the lovemaking. When I do choose to ejaculate, not only is it as powerful as when I was eighteen, but I also experience multiple orgasms.
Even though I was extremely virile as a teenager, I never experienced that! The beauty is that any man with the desire and persistence to practise, can develop these techniques, no matter what his age. Although different problems occur at different ages, the techniques achieve the same results the experience of better lovemaking than you ever dreamed possible.
Tantra techniques revolve around strengthening the PC muscle, breathing practices and learning the skill of valley orgasm; the ability to orgasm without loosing ejaculation, this way you can make love as many times as you wish.
The strength of your erection and your ability to last as long as you want without ejaculation is not all that lovemaking is about. This skill alone does not guarantee you'll be a success in bed. The ability to feel love and intimacy and express these feelings with sensitivity and passion is also what being a good lover is about. Men who are able to feel their love and share these deep feelings will never have a shortage of women in their lives.
Extract from ‘Sexual Secrets for Men: What every woman will want her man to know’ by Kerry Riley
Copyright Random House 1995.
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