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Article by Robert McInnes

The following technique is a unique way to create a new habit.

This is the first time it has been published.


Unwanted anger can be substantially reduced by following one of the techniques used in Cognitive Principle Therapy [CPT] to control anger. The technique is called “The Stop, Find, Method [TM]”

80% of clients who have used this technique have substantially reduced their anger in one week.


The success rate will increase by understanding how this technique works.




a. Facts about the conscious and sub-conscious mind.

(i)                  Your sub-conscious mind has no logic, it is a retrieval system based on scanning past patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviour.

(ii)                Your sub-conscious mind can form new habits, faster than it can change old habits.

(iii)               Your sub-conscious mind processes information between 500,000 to one million times faster than your conscious mind.

(iv)              Your conscious mind has control over your sub-conscious when there are more positives [thoughts, but mainly emotions] in you conscious mind, than negatives in sub-conscious mind, otherwise, your sub-conscious mind has control [releases the bad habit]. Therefore, positive thinking will not work while your sub-conscious mind has control.

(v)                Abusive anger is a bad habit, under the control of the sub-conscious mind.

(vi)               If the new habit is not connected [using the sub-conscious patterning system] to the bad habit then there will be no resistance from the sub-conscious mind and the new habit will be formed very quickly


b. The Stop, Find, Method [TM] creates a new habit to overcome anger as follows:


(i)                  Form the phrase “Stop, Find, Calm”


(ii)                The phrase is a direction from the conscious mind to the sub-conscious mind


(iii)               The new habit is created by repeating that phrase at least 100 times a day for 7 days. During the first 7 days do not try to use the phrase to overcome anger, only to create the habit.


(iv)              It is very important that the conscious mind has complete control and takes no responsibility for finding “calm”. That means you don’t think about why you need to be calm. Don’t try and relax and be calm. “DO NOTHING!” Otherwise, you activate the patterning system in the sub-conscious mind and it will associate the new habit with the bad habit [anger]


c. Using the new habit.


 After 7 days you can start using the words Stop, Find, Calm to reduce your anger. What you will experience is a very different set of thoughts and feelings compared to your past experience. When the “trigger” for the anger occurs and you feel the old habit of anger, say the phrase, Stop, Find, Calm, you will feel calm, while you are still angry, but you will be able to control the anger. This feeling of both anger and calm occurs because the sub-conscious mind does not relate the two habits as being in conflict.


This experience is unique, because your conscious mind cannot produce two opposite emotions at the same time which are related to the same event (that is, the trigger which caused the anger)



About The Stop, Find, Method [TM].


-The method can be used to create a new habit to overcome any bad habit.

- Once the sub-conscious mind learns the Stop, Find part of the phrase it more readily accepts new words, for example. Stop, Find, Trust [to overcome jealousy]

-Some clients can just use the word STOP to control their sub-conscious thoughts and feelings. The sub-conscious mind learns the habit of stopping and waiting for directions from the conscious mind.

- This method can be viewed as “conscious hypnosis”


The trade mark “The Stop, Find, Method” is registered to PT Counselling Pty. Ltd.

13 Mar 2012

Article/Information supplied by Robert McInnes

Disclaimer - Any general advice given in any article should not be relied upon and should not be taken as a substitute for visiting a qualified medical Doctor.