WHY IS IT SO HARD TO FIND REAL MEN ANY MORE?

By Lubomir Dimitrov MSc,
Professional Astrologer, Australia

To Jean Parkinson, who inspired me to write this article.

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The feminine energy being more receptive and intuitive is in a position to pick up certain spiritual vibrations that could be used to derive particular benefits, especially on the earth plane. In fact, in this case, Eve concluded an agreement with the serpent, which she believed
would be beneficial for both her and Adam. Little she knew, though, that these actions would lead to their fall from the Garden of Eden. As a consequence they were cast from there into a world where it hurts to give birth and where one has to work hard to make a living. In essence this was the “death” of which God warned the man and the woman.

The fact that it was Eve who was initially enticed by the serpent has another connotation as well. The whole Universe is based on the battle of the two forces – good and evil. In the Genesis this duality is depicted as God and the serpent. God inhabits his heavenly home, while the serpent is bound to “crawl on its belly and eat dust” (Genesis 2:14). This is another example where the things are depicted allegorically. Crawl on its belly and eat dust means being bound to the physical reality. If we take the serpent to represent the Devil, who is delegated with the responsibility to rule the physical reality on earth, then it becomes obvious why it is represented by a crawling creature. The role of the serpent is not entirely negative, though. After Adam and Eve ate from the fruit of knowledge, as advised by the serpent, their eyes indeed opened and they saw that they were naked. Then they covered themselves
with fig leaves, i.e. they started differentiating between good and bad. In this sense the serpent said the truth, because that’s exactly what it promised them – by knowing good from evil they will become like gods.

The bottom line is that Adam and Eve are gradually becoming like gods, because at the end of the day they ate from the fruit of knowledge. The problem is that this process is extremely painful – the life on earth requires hard work to make a living and the childbearing process brings pain. Should Adam have been alone, he probably wouldn’t have touched the forbidden fruit; he would remain in the garden of paradise where he would live in the lap of luxury, but also in complete ignorance. Thus, Adam essentially remained closer to his Father. It was Eve, who initiated the painful process for both of them to become similar to gods. In this respect she alienated herself more from the Father than Adam did.

However, from a human perspective, this does not matter at the end, because our spirit is really genderless. It gets reincarnated at least once as a male and once as a female during each of the Great Ages, in order to come into contact with both experiences. These esoteric truths were very well known to ancient people nd for this reason the roles of men and women in earliest societies were very well defined.

However, in the humanitarian Age of Aquarius this is all going to change. For the first time in the human history, the earth will undergo dramatic changes that will allow people to express themselves freely and equally, regardless of their nationality, race or sex. Does that mean that we will automatically become all the same? The answer is definitely not. Although for the first time in the human evolution we will be given the opportunity to have equal say in the political and social life, that does not mean that automatically we will be bestowed with the same abilities. Our inner formation will remain different for quite a while and in the coming centuries we will still continue to experience the external reality according to the particular race, nationality or gender to which we belong. It would be complete nonsense to say, for example, that white people generally have the same sense of rhythm, dance and music as black people, or that black people generally are equally good at organizing their material life
and place the same emphasis on money and possessions as western people. These differences eventually will fade away with time, but at this stage it is still too early to declare total equality of everybody in everything. Every race, nation or country was created to fulfill particular tasks. Similarly, humanity was divided into two sexes, because certain spiritual lessons can only be learned in one particular gender or another.

A lot of people forget this fact and assume automatically that both sexes are equal by default. The truth is that they are not. Each one of the sexes experiences the external reality differently from the other and that is completely normal. Therefore, there is no need to blame the other part of wrongdoing simply because they do not act and think exactly in the way we do. Some people believe that one of the sexes is“better” than the other. This is not the case too. Although males and females are created for different purposes and fulfill different tasks they both emanate from the same source. The two genders are similar to the left hand and the right hand in the human body. Which one is better? Which one would you prefer to have cut? Although some may say “the right one” or “the left one” the truth is that we need them both in order to function properly. The left hand helps the right one and the right hand helps the left one and we use them both to complete most of the tasks that we do throughout the day.

That leads us to the conclusion that neither sex can “win” at the expense of the other. Since they are both hands of the same organism both of them are needed equally in order that the organism functions properly.

However, the difference is in their functions. For example when I sit in front of my laptop in order to write an article I place my right hand on the right side of the keyboard and my left
hand on the left side. If I tried to reverse their position on the keyboard so the right hand goes on the left side and the left hand goes on the right side, I wouldn’t be able to write a single word properly.

Similarly, a lot of confusion arises between the sexes because their roles in the recent years
intermingled. For thousands of years the roles of men and women in the society were clearly defined. Men were the breadwinners and head of the house. They protected the family and ruled the social life. On the other hand women were mothers, house-keepers and care-givers. They were emotionally supporting their men and were taking care of the progeny. Let’s look again in the Bible and see what Apostle Paul – one of the fathers of the Church – wrote to Ephesians approximately in the year 64 A.D.

“Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is…Wives be subject to your own husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is head of the wife as also Christ is Head of the Church…But as the church is subject to Christ, so also let the wives be subject to their husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her. That He might sanctify her cleansing her by the washing of the water in the word…In the same way the husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his own wife loves himself…For this cause man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall be one flesh…Nevertheless you also, each one of you, in the same way love your own wife as yourself; and the wife should fear her husband” (Ephesians 5:17-33)

These remarkable sentences give us a significant insight into the foundations upon which the Church was founded in the beginning of the Age of Pisces. The careful analysis of the above text can lead us to the following conclusions.

1. Many of us experience today a huge shock in relation to the total changes associated with the global planetary switch to the new Age of Aquarius. However, the people living 2,000 years ago had to adjust their values to the new (at the time) Age of Pisces, so they experienced similar shock while changing their attitudes and morals which was not less in magnitude.
2. Before the switch to the Age of Pisces occurred, it was normal for a man, living in the previous Age of Aries to cohabit with several women one after another or at the same time, to succumb to lust and desires, including homosexual relationships or to divorce with his wife if she didn’t please him in any way (see my article “The Age of Aquarius” in the May issue of Universal Mind). With the proliferation of Christianity in the beginning of the new millennia the men’s attitude towards their wives had to change radically and this idea is clearly described in the Ephesians.
3. Epistle Paul clearly defines the roles of men and women in the marriage. Note that these ideas are very different to the idea of equality of sexes, typical for our Age of Aquarius.
4. The reason why it is emphasized in the text that the woman should submit to her man is to make sure that the marriage lasts for the duration of the lifetime of both partners. It is a well-known fact that the family is kept together when the woman wants to keep it together. To make a parallel with our Age of Aquarius, 70% of divorces in Australia are initiated by women. In the beginning of the Age of Pisces, the fathers of the Church prevented this from happening by submitting the woman to the man and thus not giving her a choice to do so.
5. The sentence saying that the wives must be a subject to their husbands as the church is a subject to Christ refers to the original sin in the story of Adam and Eve, implying that the man remained closer to his Father by resisting the direct temptation of the serpent. Thus, the hierarchy is formed: God-Christ-Man-Woman-Serpent, with each of those, subjecting to the previous one.
6. The sentence where the man is required to love his wife as part of his own body is truly remarkable one. As we said earlier, if Eve did not exist, Adam would save himself quite a bit of trouble, but since both male and female energies are two parts of the same source, they both have the right of existence and cannot subsist without each other.
7. And finally, the last sentence is also very clever by asking the men to love their wives, while the wives should fear their husbands. In order to keep the family unit together, the man should love his wife and feel incomplete without her as bound to it by his manly nature and sexual urges. It was envisaged that his reward for being the breadwinner, defender and protector of the family would be the satisfaction that there is somebody out there who he loves and cares about. This makes him feel important and strong (in other words it makes him feel like a real man). The text says that the wife on the other side, should fear (or we may use a better word – should respect)
   her husband, because without respect it is all too easy for her to lose interest in him and associated with it, breakage of the family.

The common scenario for this last case starts with the initial desire of the woman to dominate the family. This may be provoked by a genuine belief that she knows how to do things better than him. She might be right, but let’s see what happens further. It is all too easy, (especially in the western societies) for the man to give in and to grant her what she wants. However, this process usually does not stop there and the woman then insists to make more and more decisions in the family. The man continues to give in and finally gives up. At the end, the woman is delegated with all the powers and may even become the only decision-maker. The man is convinced that now everything is OK, because he has given her everything that she wanted. However, their roles are now reversed; he is the one who fears her and form
this point onwards she loses all her respect towards him and this very often leads to break up. These processes often happen on a subconscious level and often people are not even aware of the reasons why they behave in the way they do. I have seen many cases like this in my practice and can testify that most of the time it all starts with very good intentions, but ends up awfully wrong, basically due to lack of understanding of the nature of men and women. Astrology or studying the ancient scripts is one wonderful eye-opener for many people with problems in their relationships.

In conclusion, I would like to say that since we are almost fully living in the new Age of Aquarius we should be aware of the global changes that are happening. In particular, one great change which that Age brought for women is that it gave them a choice. They can now chose to make a career and participate equally in the social and economic life of the society, or they can chose to dedicate more time to their children or husbands. In previous ages they did not have this choice and were required to become wives and mothers by default. However, embarking on a new Age does not mean that we have to forget all the ancient wisdom and start from scratch. Quite the opposite, we should learn the ancient wisdom and incorporate it into the new conditions of our times. Only by understanding how the things
were created in the first place, can we gain insights into why certain trends are emerging at present. With regards to the men-women relationships, it is impossible to understand the other party until we look into the very sources of creation. The Bible for example, can lead us to significant insights in this relation, if we know how to interpret it properly.

Today we concentrated more on the traditional family model, based on the ancient scripts. In the next, final part of this article we will peek into the future in order to see what the Aquarian understanding of a“family” is and how the increasing trend towards homosexuality fits into that model. Finally, we will study the spiritual law of complementing the male and female energies and how this is affecting those of us who are searching for a soul mate.

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