Article extracted from a workshop & book called:
DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOU - by Dieter Luske
... all following articles, are written as workshop manuscript
... questions were asked to stimulate active participation.
ARTICLE NUMBER - 28 - CHAPTER FOUR
GOAL SETTING & PURPOSE
We now have established the rules, ( see goals part 1 ) but to get you into the right mood we need to do more than that. Although we have worked with our belief systems already, we still may have some unknown mental blocks or restricted belief systems which we are not fully aware of, or which we don't see as restricting our future goals.
One of these restricted belief systems is ready to be taken away right now, whereas others will be used to look at goals with added distinction.
So, here is the first one:
THE ONLY FAILURE IS THE FAILURE TO PARTICIPATE.
(Let's check that out now).
If you know and also totally believe that you could actually never fail,
WHAT WOULD YOU DO, THAT YOU DON'T DO NOW?
Remember the question:
WHAT WOULD YOU DO, THAT YOU DONT DO NOW?
Ask yourself this question a few times. You will use it hereafter again and again, but always in different circumstances. Not to fail means you will be a success, therefore as long as you participate you will be a success, so the next question is:
If you were absolutely certain of success, what activities would you pursue?
What action would you take?
(In other words; what would you do, that you don't do now?)
Take some time right now to answer both questions. You may argue that they are both the same, nevertheless, they have the ability to trigger two different feelings, which can stimulate two different answers.
Let's concentrate on success. We know now that we will not be failures, and therefore we will work to the opposite, which is success.
We will now repeat one technique that we learned before.
Here is the chance to use it once again. The technique is the anchoring technique and it would be a good idea to put it on tape, as a form of relaxation tape.
Work it out again with some of your own words and music.
This specific one we will call ANCHORING FOR SUCCESS!
Allow yourself to relax ..... give
your body permission to relax......and as you sit there....... listening to what I tell you..... you may wonder what part of your body will relax first....... and you are aware of parts of your body...... .starting
to feel comfortable, as you allow yourself to relax more and more, deeper and deeper .... comfortably and becoming relaxed ..... shifting your awareness now to all parts of your
body which may still feel tense and taking a deep
breath in, yes that's right good and breathing out,
releasing all stacked up tension and now an even
deeper breath in, in, in, hold it, take hold of the rest of your tension and breathing out, letting it all go.
That's good, good, give any part of your body still tense
the permission to be as relaxed as the rest of your body. Fine,
feeling really good right now knowing that you are safe
and secure in your present situation deeply relaxed but
always hearing my voice.
Now, in your own time, let yourself drift back into your
past to an especially successful feeling a really
successful event in your life, somewhere in your life as
far back or as recent as you like, but definitely successful....
Find yourself that precious moment in your life and
you may have more successful experiences. Just go there, be
there.... If you see yourself at this moment then step into yourself. ... look around you, ... what do you see ... what
do you hear. ... and what do you feel .. feel the success
all over again it is yours, feel it and see everything
bright and colourful and if other people are with you,
what do they say ... are they proud of you ... just let
everything react on you..... you are there now and as
you see and hear and maybe even smell your successful
moment you can feel it deeply all over
again...
and now when you are
ready when you are at the peak of your successful
feeling make a fist, yes, yes , press your fist, yes that feels
good total success, it is yours to keep keep
your fist pressed and open your eyes and carry this feeling
with you into the here and now, yes, this is yours, keep it,
nobody ever can take this away from you.... you are a
successful person, and any time you need to feel successful
you can squeeze your fist and trigger this successful feeling, and you know that you can do it.
Now, being programmed for success, let's get on with it.
Before something happens in the external world, it must
first happen in the internal world.
Before you have success
or find a goal in the external world, it must first happen in
the internal world, (meaning inside you). You have done this
now with some positive beliefs, you know now that success is possible, that it can and will happen. Don't wait for it and
hope it will happen, or you will wait your life away. By
knowing, anticipating and working with it, will it happen.
The key word here is action through anticipation.
There
is something rather amazing about what happens when you
get a clear internal representation of what you want. It
programmes your mind and body to achieve that goal. To go
beyond our present limitations, we must first experience
being more in our minds and the rest will then follow suit.
You are now starting to create yourself a new life, the
way you really want it. You will create and design your
future life in your mind, then you will go out and put your
thoughts into action.
Why is what we are doing here different from what you
have done before?
If you haven't made similar steps to design your life
before, then you had no real choice. Now that you simply
have more choices, the choice you make is always up to
you. You may continue doing what you have done before,
and therefore getting what you had before.
Alternatively if
you make a different choice right now, even at this moment,
you will have a different outcome tomorrow.
Remember when we talked about the default response?
Always responding the same way, having (as it seems) no
choice? The choice is yours. Act now, by refusing to do the
same old thing over and over again and do something
different. This difference is planning and creatively and
designing your life without those previous limitations.
Are you ready?
If so, then don't tell yourself: "I don't know what I can do in the future," as this is a limiting belief.
Tell yourself: "I am ready now to create and
design my life."
Internalising this idea will open up pathways
to new ideas and goals. These new ideas and goals will 'float
to the surface' for you to see and to pick from.
There are no bad ideas! Any idea will in itself create a
new idea. To create something, you actually have to do
something. Just sitting in front of an empty piece of paper is
not enough. Write something down—anything. This will give
a message to your brain that you are ready and more ideas will follow. Once you start writing, even if it feels to you a
bad idea, this bad idea may be the starting point for a new
idea, so put everything down.
DEMONSTRATE IT—DO IT—GO FOR IT
Get ready right now, take a clean sheet of paper and a
pen, and begin writing. The secret is to keep writing without
a time limitation, don't stop, just keep writing. Make sure
you will not be interrupted. Just write down everything, no
limits, don't worry how you will achieve your goal, you can
define that later.
Without delays, go through one question after the other,
don't think about any single question too long either. Just
put down what comes into your mind. Give your
subconscious mind a chance.
Remember the saying "where there is a will, there is a way!"
Take as long as you need to put together a broad sampling
of outcomes having to do with work; family; relationships;
mental; emotional; social; material and physical states;
health; fitness; appearance; housing; pleasure; politics;
career; life style; finances; anything in connection with your
life on this planet (or go even further in this universe).
To make it easy on you we will start with three questions,
(remember questions are good in one way, as you can
respond, but questions are always limiting).
QUESTION 1: what are some of the most important tasks,
personal, inter-personal, occupational, professional, physical (sport, endurance), spiritual, you would like to accomplish in
your lifetime?
QUESTION 2: what kind of desires do you have, that you
would make absolutely sure of experiencing at least once in
your life time?
Examples: climbing Mt. Everest; travelling to a certain
country; having children; being a millionaire; changing the
prison system; really anything which is of vital importance to you, but maybe you felt was too far fetched before.
QUESTION 3: what ventures, undertakings and activities
are vital and significant enough to be worth doing now and
in the future?
Your answers to the above questions will lead to more
questions and therefore more answers.
Having identified some of your goals, priorities and things
you would like to do, ask yourself to which degree you
believe you can continue, or will achieve in each one of them.
If you have got a goal and you believe you can't achieve
that, simply ask yourself the question:
WHAT STOPS ME?
Next, we will ask questions to the above answers,
questions of distinctions:.
... to be continued . next >> Goal Setting - Questions of Distinctions
