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ARTICLE NUMBER - 32 - CHAPTER FOUR
Goal Setting - Love and Hate
STARTING WITH LOVE
And now, to stress your mind even more, you will
continue searching in your subconscious mind for goals in
yet another way.
The next way sounds very easy but surprisingly enough,
it may brings up lots of internal resistance.
Of course by now you
know how to deal with your resistance.
Get your pen ready, you are to write another list.
Allow yourself to relax—don't relax too much, just
enough to reflect back on your life, to find all those magnificent things that you love to do or used to love to do.
Have a good look at all those things that you love or loved
doing—a good long look.
Think about it a little and then get
ready to write down your answers to the question:
WHAT DO I REALLY LOVE TO DO?
Why, do you think, that would be so important?
If you work to earn a living and you don't like or love
what you are doing, you will find that you get tired, stressed
WHEN YOU ARE DOING WHAT YOU LOVE TO DO,
WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING WILL GIVE YOU ENERGY.
Which way, do you think, you would be more successful?
Maybe it does not apply in your case, but I certainly know
lots of people who never really do what they love to do.
One reason for this is a certain belief system:
"YOU HAVE TO WORK HARD TO BE SUCCESSFUL."
There is nothing wrong with working hard, particularly
when you love it, but when you work hard all your life and
you don't like it, and don't get anything out of it and have
nothing worth showing for it, then you may be stuck in a
victim or a default response. Clearly, life is not working out
the way you had intended. Change quickly if you can!
What else can you do? I hope, with all your new goals
and what you have learned with the Victim Principle, you have worked that out by now—if not, please read on.
A lot of people believe, that for some kind of reason they
are not allowed to make money out of things they love
doing. I hear that a lot and it is quite frightening to think,
that most people earn money for work they don't enjoy.
What does that actually do for the quality of their work?
And how do they feel, when they come home from work? It
certainly does not do anything positive for their family life.
Something else very interesting is the fact, that a lot of
people who have a gift do not recognise it as a gift.
A gift is
something which comes naturally and easily to you.
Therefore you may tend to think and believe that everybody
has got the same gift, so you could not possibly charge
money for something like that, could you?
It goes on even further. You may have studied and
learned. You may simply read or know something, and again
belittle yourself by thinking that "everybody knows or can
do that." You then think you will not be able to charge
money for something you know.
Recognise please, we are all unique, we all have skills and
knowledge which other people do not have and therefore
they are willing to pay for. You don't have to have ten years
university study behind you to be good and valuable at
something. Some of our most successful people have a limited
education. How often have you seen that people standing on
the outside looking in, have better ideas than those people standing on the inside. This is truly accelerated learning.
Remember please that the details come from our left brain
and the overview comes from the right brain.
We all have a right side to the brain. Use it and you will
find that it may be more important to have the overview than
to have the details or the facts. Details and facts are easy to
come by in this age of communication and information overload.
does not mean to underestimate facts and details, whoever
has the facts, can charge money to supply them, but having
the facts does not mean having the overview.
This means that you could have an idea, an overview and can go to someone
who has the facts. He or she has something that you don't
have, and you have something he or she does not have.
is more important?
You both are important! Where does all this lead us to? It
leads us to recognise that:
We can have the cake and eat it too, meaning, you
can do what you love to do and get plenty of money
Doing what you love means you do it with your heart,
which is one factor which opens up your creativity and
your energy. This means that you will be more healthy
with an abundance of energy and you will surprise
yourself with more and more creative ideas as you
instinctively use the right side of your brain, therefore
getting more and more of the overview.
Please do what you love, go for it. If you haven't done it
WHAT DO I LOVE DOING?
After that, specify:
1) What would I love to do—EVERY DAY?
2) What would I love to do—ONCE A WEEK?
3) What would I love to do—ONCE A MONTH?
4) What would I love to do—ONCE A YEAR?
Now to HATE:
We mentioned hate already in the section on Emotions. We
found out that we can use hate to simply motivate us or
even to find our purpose (or at least one purpose in life).
Before we can do this, let's all recognise that our mind
has been trained over the years not to feel hate or not to
attach much emotion to what is going on around us.
All emotions are learning experiences. If you hate
something, and you think you should not hate, you will feel
guilty. This means you have not learned anything.
you carry already two emotions hate and guilt. Please, go
easy on yourself, don't judge yourself. Remember if you feel
an emotion, learn from it, do something about it. If you therefore hate something, then use that hate to do something
positive about it.
I am not saying that hate is good, but look
at the positive function of hate again.
Stop carrying hate
around with you—do something about it.
Naturally, the way hate should work is, that if something
happens that we hate, it should motivate us strongly enough
to do something against it. Often that does not work
anymore. One reason for this is TV. If we see extensive images of killinsg going
on in the news, we hardly flicker an eyelid anymore. For that
reason I like to ask you some questions:
1.) What would you hate if you would hate?
2.) Then you can grade those things you have written
down by asking yourself—what would I hate most'
Having done that, have a close look at what you hate
most. If possible, go very close, meaning from first hand
experience. That does not mean if you hate war that you
should go to war. It may be enough to talk to people who
have been in a war or who have been affected by it. That
will trigger strong emotional feelings.
You may hate for example, the nearly hopeless situation
with the street kids. You would be much more compelled to
help them if you had talked to them. Sitting at home in our
comfortable lounge rooms may make us tend to blame those
kids for being on the street as if it is all their own fault.
So let's ask the big question we always ask when we tend
"what have those kids been through in their
They where not born street kids, they were perfect little
babies, like all of us. We seem to cope well, whereas they
So, once again: do not blame anybody. If you hate a
situation, then use this hate to motivate you to find a way to
make a correction in the system.
GO AFTER, WHAT YOU HATE!
Write down now:
What do you hate?
What would you hate, if you would hate
Creating goals out of what you love and what you hate, has finalised the chapter on creative goal setting and designing your life!
Now it's up to you to make things happen, AND therefore create the belief system that will support you, like: I CAN DO IT!
A few last minute hints:
Chunk your goals into manageable sizes.
Chunk backwards: what do I do before that' etc.
Pretend to create goals for somebody else, (that
somebody else is you). This is like standing on the
outside, looking inside. This is a better view than
looking from the inside to the inside, as it may be too
Don't forget the next chapter.
It contains the seven
steps of success
which will finalise the whole book and
will give you some more help as it will lead you straight
into the appendix about Diet for Energy
a section on Communication